I'm having issues with lust

There is nothing like Self-Control. You have to learn the art of controlling yourself. You need to grow the will power. Atleast you have to reduce your lust. If you tend to watch a women multiple times you've to stop looking at her from the first glance. So with time I guess you can totally end this so called lust. Good Luck!

 

Same boat as you. I always have the thought thinking what will be like with a different sex partner with hot features I am fond of.

Sadly we need to realize this fantasy thought will not be fulfilled despite how bad we want it. A habit with less thoughts into it would help. The more we dwell in it the worse it gets.

 

I can relate to this. When I see a good women I start imagining her fully naked. But I don't think it is a huge problem.

It should disappear with time. May be it is because the porn images we have in our minds. That is the reason behind this. As we keep not watching porn those images should lose power.

 

Same here whenver i'm walking down the street or using the bus or basically at any public place i cant stop checking out every cleavage or a butt i see. I started trying to control myself and not look and it kinda feels a little bit better. I believe this feeling(like a pervert) will fade away with time.

 

For me, it relates to watching porn. The less I watch porn, the less I check out women in real life. You are not overhyped on women's bodies.They say that porn objectifies women, and it's true. When we watch porn, we are only focussing on a nice set of boobs, a nice butt, etc. It carries over into real life. Try it. See, if you can stay away from porn, if you urge to check out women is as strong as before.

 

First I realize that it's just a thought. I'm trying to learn with some success that thoughts do not control me.

I also believe we have a biological urge to breed, so it's not always easy and more times than not I fail.

I'm not worried however. I have an advocate in Heaven who knows my struggle

 

Porn Fucks People Up
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Yes. Yes. Yes. And yes. Even after not watching P, like two people actually having sex, only a handful of times in the last year, my lust over women in public is INSANE! Plus P-subs. I can’t shake them. I can’t stop looking at images of beautiful women or social media pictures, plus soft core or even nude pics of women. Still hanging on to me

 

Dude you're going nowhere if you're still peeking at hot girls in social media let alone nude pics. The only way to do nofap is hard mode No pmo no peeking no shit nothing not even a profile picture of a random girl on facebook.

 

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i actually did go hard mode for 101 days and then started having sex with wife again and then did relapse at 204 days.

I still have a lot more benefits after not watching p everyday. But still not where I really WANT to be.

 

Ugh i know this struggle all too well. I remember after doing so well in a 17 day streak all it took was seeing a nice ass in yoga pants that sent my head spinning eventually into a relapse. It was pretty much automatic and made me realize how much more work i need to put into this. I really dont want that creepy label at all and i know it needs to stop.
Its all about how we react in the right way. I know yoga pants aint going no where anytime soon so therefore i need a better way to cope and move on.

 

I’m currently struggling with this

 

Well I know EXACTLY what you mean, unfortunately.

 

Maybe we can chat and help each other??

 

If only I saw this post earlier. I wouldn’t mind talking

 

I think its perfectly normal to look, i mean you where gawking back when you where doing daily PMO, right? So not much has changed. But to stare for TOO LONG is actually just hurting ourself. I mean if we are never planning to go up to and talk to the woman than what is the point of staring? It will only increase our craving which is a form of self-torture. The worst guys are the ones that follow same woman around down the aisles of the stores and following behind while gawking and leering. Society calls those guys creeps.

We dont want to go that far. Just look away after a few seconds for your own good. Back when we where masturbators it would make sense to take a GOOD LONG LOOK in order to "record it" so we could spank the monkey when we got home but now in this new life we can let those old behaviors go.

Believe it or not it is a form of freedom to be free of those lecherous desires. We are mentally chained to having to indulge these sexual cravings and lust. Its actually not even enjoyable if we are not going to end up in bed with the girl. So if you are not planning to ask her fr her phone number or ask her out on a date then dont even bother to stare longer than 3-5 seconds.

 

It’s never too late to start again.

 

Sex with wife is fine just the peeking at hot girls pics is more dangerous than you think.