Thinking of hiring an escort...

Can’t tell from this post if your apprehension is sexual performance anxiety or social anxiety, or some combination. There’s a ton of disagreement on this site, but if it’s performance anxiety then maybe the hooker visit (it may take a few) could possibly get you past that and restore your confidence to some small degree. It’s empty and mechanical (and of course costly) but as long as you view these visits realistically it may not be harmful to your psyche. I am sure a bunch of people will now come in and violently disagree either on religious or moral grounds, but it’s a common way to move ahead in many parts of the world and just because it wasn’t needed by some of us we shouldn’t judge.

 

Up to you. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 31, via a woman from an online dating site. Haven't had sex since. Perhaps getting the deed out of the way helped, perhaps not. It definitely did not magically fix all my woes. The path I'm on now is ditching the porn and masturbation. Going to SA meetings to learn to let go of my lust related crap I'm holding onto and to learn to be a better person. Being able to share with other guys, face to face, is a good help. Aiming to see women as people, not sex toys. This means learning to be friends with women and not expect sex in return. Taking a mindset of considering sex optional, not a life requirement. Sex will be after marriage with a woman.

Take whatever advice from this that you will.

 

you still young probably if you invest hard in yourself the next 2-4 years good things can happen .

Much love .

 

It ain't all about that and you know it .

Focus.

Much love .

 

I'm in no position to give you any advice on whether you should hire one or not, or what you should do. But you know, nobody will "cure" your loneliness. Does not matter if it's one escort or a gf, or tons of them, or even some friends. That feeling is not going to go anywhere no matter how many people you surround yourself with.

 

No, I wouldn't do it. It wouldn't be a good idea to get a hooker. You'll just be telling yourself "I have to pay for sex because I'm not good enough to get it on my own". You'll feel like crap after, I've been there. Instead, join a club or course or something, a class that attracts a lot of women like Qigong, call them in advance and find out how big the class is and how many women vs men. Your end goal is not to have sex, it's to find that special someone...and then have sex. A prostitute wont build your confidence, it'll do the opposite. You need social skills, that's it.

 

If you can afford to blow the $200 then the hooker idea might not be so bad. Maybe it will get you out of the slump.

 

Never been with a prostitute. Have considered it. But it seems like something that would leave me a lot worse off emotionally after it's over as the woman gets away as fast as she can with my hard earned money.

I'm just going to keep enjoying the things I like in life and not worry about women and relationships.

 

Prostitutes are just an unscrupulous being looking for your money.

 

Well you work out 3 times a day and you have 6 pack and are tall,the tall part is a huge plus most women have a height standard from my experience . What kind of women do you like Latin black mixed white . Also what state or city do you live in . If you give me some information I can help you out . Don't waist your time or money on escorts it's really tuff to get to know if you will vibe well together from just a picture and when you meet in person it could be akward and you will still have to pay .

 

No, you're seeing just a select few. Most people are either alone or with a long term partner who they're scared will leave them.

When it comes to prostitutes - they're great. If you do your research beforehand you're likely to end up spending quality time with a beautiful woman. But the question is - what next? Will you pay for another one (and another one and ...)? That can get expensive. Will you start looking for a "normal" girlfriend? Having sex with a prostitute will not give you any extra confidence and won't remove any mental blocks you might have. At least it didn't for me.

So do whatever you want but don't expect anything out of it beyond the sex.

 

Also how long have you been pmo free the reason I ask is because when you abstain from looking at porn and masterbation you create a natural longing and desire that can not be stopped it's not you it just nature .

 

Stop caring how others think, what society thinks, nobody gives a fuck about you or me (the only one you should care about impressing is yourself)

your happiness and closeness needs to come from yourself alone, you need to be happy and content with yourself.

if you can't enjoy your own company no ones else will.

all you need to know is if you can be happy by yourself, you will be able to comfortably get into healthy relationships and if they end you will get over it and become a better person.

basically your internal problems with loneliness makes any relationship you get into unhealthy and when it ends you will become way worse than you were before going into it. your internal problems is whats making you uncomfortable because you need them to like you. STOP FUCKING CARING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK. its only you that you need to like you.

 

This is a smart idea. But i think you talk too much, just go out and do it then come back to us.

 

First thing is first no porn no YouTube no big booty Instagram models nothing not even vid. games and stop pulling your sausage its going to be hell and the feel good chemicals you been getting from looking at porn are going to be depleted and your going to feel like shit it's basically pmo is reverse yoga . To fight this cold showers excercise and socialize especially socialize get your dopamine rush by talking to people . And yoga means way of life not the stuff you see in California twisted up like a pretzel its a science of living and nofap is yoga and it works .