Affirmation

Affirmations can totally work: https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?profile-posts/235411/

They need to be made with conviction though. They need to be made with all your heart. You have to believe the words you are saying. You gotta have faith

In my example there, what I was feeling in that moment was the exact opposite of what I said. I made that positive affirmation and it appeared to completely turn things around for me.

I don't think this tool would be something to make into a daily ritual, it can become empty. It's the way you use the words more than the words themselves. Can you grow into using them on a daily basis? Sure! But stay on the path of meaning, deeply, what you say.

 

In that instance, I said it just once and held what I said in my heart.

As a general practice, I come out in the opposite spirit of the thing I am facing, be that either in myself or in something around me. So when I am feeling rejected, I may say "I am someone who is beloved"

It's not just positivity, it's the right kind in the right way...if that makes sense?

 

Yeah, kind of like that.

Hey dude, maybe that way would work for you. It's not like you'll harm yourself by trying.

For me, I came from a religious background where what should have been deep and precious spirituality was instead turned into empty rituals. Because of that, I have a focus to not be ritualistic and to make sure the things I do come from the depths of my spirit rather than some obligation to do the right thing just because.

 

I'll try that!

 

Yep. And they do work, God is good!!

 

Hi Deadpool98,

Affirmations work, but you have to keep a sense of proportionality while you're doing them.
Affirmations are just a temporary fix, comfort to get you through whatever you're facing.
The thing that transforms you is facing whatever makes you weak, to confront your fears and so on. This is the healthy way to become better.
Affirmations are just going to fix the issues on a surface level and you will only feel changes as long as you will keep doing them. So you will have to stick to affirmations almost religiously in order to see results.
It's true that you will see results very soon, like in the first two weeks, but you probably want a lasting change.