Catfight Fetish Addiction

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Hey AlphaMode, I'm no expert on fetishes but I know a bit about beating a pmo addiction from experience. So here are a few yellow bricks.

First of all: relax. Take a deep breath. Don't panic. Let all that guilt, shame, negativity and anxiety wash away. Maybe a bit of meditation or mindfulness helps to clear you mind.

Beating a sex addiction takes a long time. Looking back on my 500 day detox I see it went down in fases. First it was physical (hormonal?), then about willpower, then about relationship, then about my past, then about how I see myself .. it's a path. Different for every person. Never the same and the goals differ too. But it takes a long time. It is a transitional fase in your life. So set looooong goals. And enjoy the ride by rewarding yourself.
I'm not finished with my pmo addiction too. Some fases done, but still some way to go.

There are therapies to beat fetishes but they are controversial. Basically you try to associate good feelings with good sexual experiences, and bad feelings with the fetish. Will it work? I don't know, I think it is a bit technical and cold hearted. My preferred approach would be through love. If you love a person and your fetish is hurting them, you will be internally motivated to let go of that fetish. It will take time and a lot of patience but it can be done. It's a huge cliché and I feel like a Disney princess singing out loud, but 'love conquers all'. Or al least, many things. Love is powerful stuff.

Is your catfight fetish extreme? Does 'extreme' mean bizar or weird or rare? I think that is not important. However, I would be worried if it is the actual pain, violence and blood that turns you on. Then it's fuel for crime. Don't go that path.

Should you expect the fetish to go away? Maybe, but don't feel bad if the temptation stays. As long as it no longer has complete control over your live. YOU need to be in control.

About HOCD, is the 'H' a question? When in doubt, check it out.

I hope this helps you on your journey.

 

Well, I have been suffering from hocd for a while, and u should join a special hocd forum or a support group cuz most people here are not familiar with hocd, btw what kind of thoughts u got now? Mine is severe cuz I get thoughts 24/7 and Im not really disgusted by them(

 

Checking is a compulsion which makes the ocd worse

 

Hi @AlphaMode. Welcome to the community.

Do everything you can to not watch any type of porn for awhile. 90 days is a good goal to aim for. Most people also avoid masturbating during this time of rebooting the brain from the escalations of porn abuse. Just getting away from porn and masturbation for a decent length of time will help your brain heal and help answer a lot that you are concerned about. Reboot is real and I am a good example. There are many, many others who have healed.

We all have different sorts of twists and turns in our story about how we got into porn, and we're all a little different about what our "taste" escalated to. As an outside observer, I might recommend thinking about what your beliefs are about yourself, specifically about your masculinity or toughness. If you have negative self-images (thoughts and feelings) about being unmasculine "enough" or about not being tough "enough", you may be trying to solve these negative self-images by "getting" the toughest girl. As though landing the toughest girl somehow proves you are masculine and tough, which would eliminate your insecurity about this. The problem with this approach though, is that you can't eliminate low SELF-images through outside sources. You can try to change how other people see you and perceive you by getting the toughest girlfriend, but it will have little to no effect on your own SELF-image. What I'd suggest instead is to try to understand that who you are is completely whole, loveable, and acceptable without having the toughest girl. I know you have gall because you came here to NoFap and opened up. That's tough and a lot of guys are too scared to even try.

Anyway, I'm glad you're here and I wish you luck with recovery!

 

Hey AlphaMode,

there’s a lot of good advice in here that’ll help you on your journey. One thing that’s helping me on my journey is learning about the perils of P and why I should stay away from it. Educating yourself on such things will help you more about yourself and how P can negatively affect you. The world is yours. Do great things with it.