The Lord of the Rings Challenge

Congratulations my brother!!! You have prove yourself to carry the porn ring. You´re a Hobbit now . Your journey has begun. I hope to see you 485 days from now when you throw the ring into the fire. Be like Sam my brother, whatever happens, don´t give up. Let´s go!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Welcome brother . willpower and self-discipline is what you need to end your porn addiction. Let´s go!!! Hope to see you climbing that mountain!!!!

 

15 my brothers!!! A hobbit i am and my journey has begun, finally!!!!

here´s a gift to all the brothers. an email of the newsletter of JK Emezi, my favorite porn reboot coach. Valuable stuff here brothers, i recommend everybody to read it. Have a nice day!!

"Hey Champ!

In part 1 of this two part series, I shared the basics of what it takes to stay off porn for 2 years. The two year mark is the point at which, not only has your brain rewired, but you are completely free from the fear of relapse.


I also mentioned the concept of reboot capital. Just like a business needs capital in its early days to function until it turns a profit, you need your own form of “capital” to sustain you till your brain full rewires or reboots.


Every person has unique abilities, strengths, and assets which can be leveraged in their recovery process. You also have the potential to not only receive, but to give reboot capital.


Lets look at how to develop reboot capital in the 5 areas of your life:

Physical Reboot Capital Plan: Exercise. When you are feeling stressed, anxious, depressed, exercise is often the last thing on your mind, but that is probably the time when your brain needs it the most.


One of your goals in recovery is to put yourself through a process of discovering ways to build recovery capital in the physical part of your life by taking back your health and maintaining its stability.


It doesn’t matter what sort of exercise it is early on. Swim, yoga, lift weights, run, martial arts…whatever it takes. This will be a consistent part of your life for the next two years.

Mental Reboot Capital Plan: This begins by challenging your irrational beliefs such:
“I’ll never recover”
“I made it to 30 Days! I got this!”
“I’ll never be able to satisfy my wife because of my PIED”

" I don't really have an addiction- just a bad habit"
“ I’ll always be frustrated at work”


Challenge all your irrational thoughts and make challenging them a habit. You’ll need constant reality checks- sometimes on a daily basis.


Avoid minimization and rationalization. The behavior was built up over years. Just because you go from binge watching porn every few days to doing so every few weeks does not means that its under control.
Always stimulate yourself intellectually. Read about recovery.


Remember that boredom and relapse are close cousins. Stay mentally active. As your mind becomes clearer, you will become stronger and better able to understand that your former addiction cannot define who you are as an individual.


Emotional Reboot Capital Plan: When you are unsure as to how your recovery is going, ask for help.As you change, you begin to store up reboot capital that will strengthen and transform you as you become better able to forgive yourself and begin asking those who hurt you for forgiveness. Don’t bottle up your feelings by letting them build up inside you. Join a healthy support group and use it to express your feelings and emotions.

Social Reboot Capital Plan: No one ever reboots alone. Face it. People ending their out of control sexual behavior need people. Rebooting is about adopting a culture of new shared values that are positive, support a porn-free lifestyle and enhances well being.


Socialization through meetup groups, dance and hobby groups, exercise groups, public speaking groups, men's groups and recovery groups play an invaluable role in your reboot. Those in recovery encourage and engage with each other. They provide each other with the support needed to recover and more importantly, to maintain that recovery.


Studies have shown that persons involved in any type of social group often benefit from improved social functioning and family adjustments. I recommend you become a giver not a taker. Be patient as you begin to earn back trust from others.


Conscious or Spiritual Reboot Capital Plan: You are entitled to happiness and the joy hat freedom from your sexual behavior brings. It is now time to begin risking a little and discover your inner path. It doesn’t have to be a religious experience. It is more about discovering the power of gratitude that changes self-pity into a new found peace.


It is about regaining or rebuilding your moral character once again through the practice of humility, tolerance, forgiveness, responsibility , and concern for others.

This is how your maintain your recovery in the first two years. Any good recovery system will include a plan to develop all five areas of your life.


Identify which area of your life needs work and feel free to share it with me.I'm most active these days in our free facebook group.


Your brother in this struggle,


J.K Emezi"