Over 100 days PM free! Lessons learned

First of all, great first step trying to get rid of your PMO addiction. 8 days is no joke, congrats on that, keep up the good work.
The habit only gets worse and the consequences more severe, you are taking responsibility a full decade earlier than I am and I can't truly express in words how much I wish I would have done that and how much better the last decade of my life would have been if I had gotten my act together at 17 instead of trying now at 27.
Dating, sex, general peace of mind and being more content with who I am. The university years and how much more fun and interesting they could have been.
So take it from somebody who can't go back in time, keep doing what you are doing

I checked out your journal, you are doing a good job logging honestly.

Having said that, I won't pretend I have loads of advice to give to somebody in your situation and at your age. Because personally my dating mostly occurs via tinder and similar apps.
I'm guessing you are still in school? Or are you working?
I'm finding that setting goals is always a good thing, even for more everyday tasks. Otherwise it can easily happen that a month or six or twelve disappear without having actively worked towards changing something.
In my case i set some goals regarding sleep, training, eating.
I also indirectly set a goal to start dating which I did via tinder and similar apps/sites.

It has helped me grow and has helped a lot with my PMO journey. Without focus on sleep, training and dating I wouldn't have gotten the streak I have now.

You already seem to be in a better position than most, you are taking charge of a bad habit and you are looking for serious meaningful relationships.
Maybe set a goal for asking a person out within a time frame (a crush or just somebody you think is a nice person).
Work on your confidence and the rest will most likely come somewhat automatically.
So maybe exercise, eat well, sleep plenty, if there are areas you are insecure about such as dressing right, certain skills or whatever then work on those.

I feel like I'm a much more confident person now than I was 80 days ago because of my streak, because of dating, because of getting in better shape, because of doing better at my job since I sleep more etc.
And once you start feeling better about yourself that generally shows and makes other people feel better about you as well.

That's quite a rant, and fairly generic. Not sure if it helps at all. In short, keep killing the PMO streak and you will get there I think

 

Thanks for the kind words Fada1.
Like I tried to make clear in my post. I was far gone.
If i can make it this far, anybody can.
Having said that I am humble to the fact that I'm not "done" or "cured".
But it's a start. And I know now that anybody can get here if they just try to focus on getting past one day at a time and set up some helpful habits.
Best of luck

 

Updated the first post.

 

Thanks Tommy means a lot! Stay the course it will make you feel better for sure

 

Thank you! Feels good, just got to make sure not to relax and keep focused.

 

Thank you, appreciate it

 

Thanks Homo Deus

 

Agree, I definitely want to get to a point where I don't need the pills at all.
I think I'll try without very soon and see the difference. Not a good idea to be dependent.

 

Thanks Awakened appreciate the kind words

 

Thanks for the reply.
Indeed keeping busy and out of the house is easier said than done. But PMO is easy and quitting it is hard, especially at the beginning that's just how it is
There may be hot girls at the gym, but I don't see that as a bad thing personally. I may check them out but I can control if I run to the bathroom and fap, and I'm less likely to do that than to watch porn at home so it's a win at least for me^^

I agree about the count of when you first started can be a good thing. The counter in the signature can be treacherous and demotivating in a way. If you go 7 days without PMO and then watch porn on the 8th day you have obviously still done much better than if you had watched porn all 8 days. The counter going back to 0 can make it seem like you are back to square 1 but that's only the case if you watch porn a bunch of more times.
So I agree a more sophisticated way of keeping track can be good.

Day counter at the top of the website it says "Home", "Froums", "Groups", "support Site", "Update Day Counter"