I think pornography and masturbation is stupid, time-wasting, life-ruining, pathetic, evil, powerful shit and I HATE IT!! What do you guys think of it?? Let's fight the urges by getting angry at P and M and calling it out for what it really is!!
That will make relapsing that much more painful. I suggest you to get to an indifferent state of mind. The opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference.
Even the feeling of getting back at them for deluding us is real but we must turn it into understanding. The whole thing is a mess and it is not serving anyone. The people involved are also suffering right?
That's a very interesting point. I think when I'm "calling out" pornography and masturbation it's as a way of motivating myself to stay away from it and consider it a bad thing. However, at the same time choosing to become partially indifferent to it might decrease the significance of it in my (or anyone's) life. Very interesting indeed. Thanks for the thoughts man!
Also true. That brings up the point that seeing porn for what it really is might not mean seeing that it's "shit," but seeing that it's an industry that hurt's people and brings pain. And that's something I definitely wouldn't want to support with my time, views, money or anything else.
I want to agree with you whole heartedly! However, I struggle with the flesh! Parts of love it and I want to hate it. I hate at least parts of it, if only my mind wouldn't wonder to things I have viewed. I need to listen to John Owen more in his books on overcoming sin and temptation. But, I do wish it was banned. At times freedom of expression (in the USA as per Supreme court rulings) inhibits true freedom and encourages slavery of the mind. Otherwise, so many could be spared such mental, physical and spiritual heartache.
this thread made me smile. ok here we go... porn you...little ugly asshole! damn retarded monkey! catshit! evil and cruel pig! WOW - that was a good relief! thanks for this therapy.
It doesnt matter whether you hate it or not. Embrace the fact you are here and the chance you have been given to turn your life around and to become a better person. This is not only a journey to be free of PMO, but a journey to re-create yourself mentally and spiritually. Without P, you can become anything you want in life, but with P you will always find yourself enslaved in shackles living up to the expectations of a fantasy.
My goal is to care for PMO like I care for crack-cocaine and who's the current dart world champion - I don't. It can be difficult to get to the point where you don't even acknowledge PMO as NOT-being a thing in your life anymore, and you maybe need to become a different person to do so, but that is essentially it. When the urges comes you'll deal with them, like you deal with the thoughts of murdering an obnoxious people in the supermarket cue - You just fucking don't. I once had the luck of being able to build a streak on hating porn, but that disappeared again and I felt weird not being able to muster that hate again. And the truth is that I fucking love PMO. If I would to let myself, I'd be a hedonist like Dorian Gray, but I don't have a picture to take the scares and shame for me - I only have this fucking body. And again: like I'd also probably love driving 200mph through the traffic and do massive amounts of coke, but I'm not that kind of person who does this. Right now I've a lot emotion towards PMO and I need to be humble about that fact, but once I had the same thing for weed, and one day I know I will look back at PMO like I look at my former graving for weed - With utter amazement and wondering why I loved it so much!? I had to get rid of friends, move town and go into honest and humbling therapy - twice - before I could kick the weed, and now I must be fucking merciless bastard with a pair of scalpels towards PMO as well: Cutting and sacrificing things in my life in order to experience the success I described above. I must practice to become the person I feel I really am inside. So who are you? A person who is build upon hating something that a part of your brain perfectly believes you love, or are you going to start working towards the things you love and build integrity around your real values? (Sorry for the language - I'm listening to MUSE )
Yes it can ruin your life! I am just starting a 7 day challenge! One week at a time! Best of luck to you and everyone!
Yes that is pure true, but, deep in us we have a demon of adiction ho sleep like a baby, and when he wake up, we make a trubles...