Observations after 700+ days of nofap

I am the true virgin incel fuck and let me tell you your nofap streak isn't deemed because you had "regular sex" on your streak.

 

Thank you for sharing

 

Inspiring. I hope I can say the same things two years from now.

 

I've noticed that when studying urges can hit the hardest because I'm sitting in one place, it doesn't happen during video games though which is weird. But I do some of the things you listed above and also go running.

 

Congrats buddy keep going!

 

[QUOTE = "Will27272, pós: 2423533, membro: 201609"] Eu estou escrevendo isso como alguém que não tem usado o site em mais de um ano, mas depois de refletir sobre o fato de que eu tinha uma vez ter um sério e perto relacionamento terminando o vício em pornografia, achei que faria esse post e compartilharia com vocês tudo o que aprendi nos últimos 700 dias ..

Parte disso, eu acho, muitos de vocês não querem ouvir, e para algumas pessoas esse pode não ser o post mais encorajador, mas espero que seja sóbrio e que seja tomado no espírito pretendido.

The main point that I want to make here, is that nofap is not a panacea. It will not cure you of all your ailments, you will not get super powers, you will not become irresistibly attractive to women, you will most likely not become the next Bill Gates because you stopped jerking off.

You may feel these states temporarily, you may be more attractive to women than you previously were, but if you go into this thinking you're going to suddenly, and permanently enter into beast mode for the rest of your life and never again feel like the loser you've always felt like then you are setting yourself up for nothing but disappointment and relapse.


What will happen, though, is you will develop self respect.

When you look in the mirror, consciously or not, you won't be reminded of the depravity, the helplessness, the lack of control you feel. You'll be reminded of the fact that you are in control of your habits, and because you're in control of your habits, you have greater control over your life.

With this subtle daily reminder, you will naturally start making better choices.

As humans, we strive for a coherent concept of who we are and this concept is largely based around the choices we make, and our routines. Because of this need for consistency, if you are a porn addict, the choices you make can't not be affected by porn.

If every time you look in the mirror you see a porn addict staring back at you, why would you work out? Why would you eat properly? Why would you make good decisions?

Consciously, you might be thinking "man I know I gotta watch my weight but I really want that KFC right about now", but unconsciously you're acting on the notion that a piece of shit like you doesn't deserve to eat well.

Not using porn replaces the self concept of "the piece of shit porn addict" with "the person who is in control of their decisions" and this is where the magic happens.

Gradually, you will start to feel better, more energetic, more loving, more human. This is a compounding, but nonlinear process. The more good decisions you make, the more your sense of self respect increases, the better human being you will become. You will have low points, but you will get better at pulling yourself out of them.

The problem I have with the 'superpower' ideal that many nascent nofappers (my former self included) is that it implies the following:

1. You stop fapping

2. You suffer through a 70-120 day withdrawal period

3. You suddenly get hit with a lightening rod of energy, all of your problems will evaporate and you will live like a god among mere mortals for the rest of your life.


Maybe this is the case for some people, but it certainly wasn't for me.

I got the horrible withdrawal period, I stabilised and then my life got incrementally better over time.


I understand that this may be disheartening for those of you who are hoping to go from zero to hero overnight. I remember trawling through these forums, looking through the success stories and the lists of amazing achievements people had made to inspire me, so I'm going to do the same, but I want it to be clear that these are things that I worked at, not simply a function of having NoFap superpowers.

Before NoFap I was:

* Overweight
* Undisciplined
* A smoker
* In a sexless relationship
* Barely passing at university
* Unable to finish anything I started
* A constant procrastinator
* Unreliable
* Directionless
* Self loathing

Now:

* In excellent shape
* Disciplined
* A non-smoker
* Enjoys regular, shame-free sex
* Graduated university with a 20% increase in my average grades
* I finish EVERYTHING that I start (unless I consciously choose not to)
* Procrastine muito menos do que nunca (hesitei em dizer isso porque eu deveria estar trabalhando no meu portfólio de graduados agora e não escrevendo este artigo)
* Confiável
* Eu sei o que quero fazer da minha vida
* Eu me amo

Pelo caminho:

* Eu li bem mais de 100 livros depois de mal terminar um livro em anos
* Eu me ensinei a codificar
* Superou o medo da matemática ao longo da vida e descobriu que eu a amo e que sou naturalmente boa nisso
* Trabalhei com um grande grau de trauma na infância que me levou ao vício em primeiro lugar

Eu ainda tenho coisas em que trabalhar, mas não poderia ter chegado tão longe quanto cheguei sem o respeito próprio que veio com o controle do meu vício. Como sei que cheguei tão longe quanto sei, sei que posso ir mais longe e que continuarei a me tornar uma pessoa melhor todos os dias.

Nunca terei superpotências, nunca serei perfeita, mas sou e continuarei sendo uma pessoa melhor do que eu era.

E você também pode!
Muito bom cara!
Parabéns!

 

Wow very inspiring! I never believed in the superpower bs that a lot of people in this website claim to gain, but self-respect, and not looking at a porn addict every time you look at yourself in the mirror, that's something that I could believe in

 

Inspiring.
Could you please share your flatline/ withdrawal experience?

 

Thanks for your sober and lucid post! Self-respect is something I think is so valuable that we could term it like a 'superpower' kind of thing, since it allow you to take responsibility for your choices and life. One little question, if I may: how was/is your relationship with alcohol consumption, regarding relapses? In my case, alcohol is by far the number 1 cause of losing control and engaging in several relapses. All the best!

 

Wait, that means it took you around 600 days of nofap to get rock hard erections?

 

You should speak for yourself, to be honest. Maybe you didn't feel the benefits as others did. Don't use the word "You", use "I" instead.

 

You lied. You said "you will not get super powers"

 

That great man i am also having mental issues from this pmo addiction . My mind is automatically start fantasizing about females bodies and sexual images all the time of girls. I feel no control , did u also gone thru same and how it wemt amd get better