My girlfriend officially left me

Stay strong brother.
How rude it may sound but if she is not ready to be with you in your battles then what kind of girlfriend is she?
Is life all about sex?

 

You got this. Stay strong and focus on yourself. When she sees the new you she may return.She may have blocked you for now but eventually, maybe a month or 2 or 3 down the line she will definitely unblock you. The worse thing you can do to yourself is trying to find a way to reach out to her. Wait for her to reach out to you and work on yourself until then.

 

I understand what you are going through but i still suggest you to be strong and work on yourself.
Maybe your girlfriend is not grasping your situation and the struggle, but the new confident you that will come after few months will be able to handle the situation in better way.

 

In that case, you should just move on.
Live your life at your own terms and you will soon get someone who understand and appreciate this.

 

Move on for now.
Focus on improving yourself.
Focus on learning, your education, your business and whatever inspires you.
You won't get this at present as you are going through a hell lot of emotions but once the storm calms, you'll be able to see the clear picture.

I believe that no matter how bad the situation is, there is nothing time can't heal.
So give yourself some time brother.
Engage yourself in the things that makes you feel happier from the inside.

 

And brother scratching a wound won't make it any better.

 

I dont understand. she got an exagerate reaction. like very too much. for 10 years she quit like that, for that reason its a nonsense. take care of you now, challenge yourself, riseup.

 

@MJ Elite Judging by your reaction it’s clear to see you love her and value her. What you did by telling her the truth about your addiction is the most loving thing you could have done for HER. By telling her the truth you have her the chance to choose whether she wanted to stay in the relationship or not. Unfortunately she chose not. Instead of looking at it as you ruined your life spin it and realize that you chose not to ruin hers by keeping your addiction a secret. Honestly what you did was brave and unbelievably loving towards her. Allow yourself to feel down for a few days and then start moving towards a plan. One that will make you proud of your future self

 

You are in a state where you are bringing yourself down and taking all the blame and the negative talk is only going continue to bring you down. I know this is hard especially when you have been friends for so long. I can tell you from experience you have to stay strong and work on yourself as that's the only thing left to do. Don't wait for her to unblock you as that mindset is bad for you.The reason she blocked you is likely not because you admitted to this but rather you may have came out way too needy for her. Trust me I have been that dude as well. Girls hate guys who are overly emotional and beg for things. Don't count the days for no contact hoping she may start missing you(this is a bad way to move on). Your life is bigger than this. What got me through break ups is motivational videos and a new hobby. I know its easier said than done but its a cycle you are going to go through where you may be ok for one day but sad the next. All I can say is delete everything that reminds you of her and start to FOCUS on yourself. If she is the one for you then she will return.

 

I've wanted to leave my husband in this battle. No one can know what all these symptoms--not just sex, but the pressure a man goes through does to a woman. I can no longer breastfeed our newborn baby because I couldn't eat. Plus the stress, so we have to formula feed.

I've had a lot of this--the flip phone, no games, quiting certain social media thrown in my face..."I'm doing this all for YOU!".

Honestly, I don't think it's fair to put another person through that. I think time alone can be the MOST powerful agent in self examination.
Take it from me, and my husband....it's an ugly ugly monster to confront as a couple. And he has behaved like a monster emotionally because he doesn't have the tools to be there for anyone. That added guilt of further damage can't help the process I imagine, but that anger and wrath are there. He's told our newborn baby to shut up multiple times...please take it from me, get away from this addiction so your reality isn't dark and sad for spouses or children.

See this as a pause. Not an end...

 

I can understand you feel like the world has ended I may have collapsed an 11 year relationship do I can understand your position somewhat :/

 

Hold on buddy,when you have feel that someone is special to you,your worst nightmare is person who is special to leave you.I know that because i have experience that too,but there is few things which might can help you:
1.She leave you because you told her about your porn addiction?What bad have you done?Nothing if you ask me,you didn't kill anybody and tell her that to leave you.(i personally never told anyone about my porn addiction,because most people have no clue what that is and can't understand)
2.You know her for many years and you enter in relationship with her,and she leave you just like that?What type of person is that is to be worth your time?Without understanding relationship is impossible.
3.Your life is not over buddy and of course you can keep going,don't let your brain to trick you.If she was special to you then you are not special to her.What girl who knows you for 10 years can done such thing and be special?For yourself you must be on first place not anyone else.
4.Girlfriend is person who should give you support.If you thinking about her just remind yourself about her bad side and bad habits and after few months-half year you should forget her.(Because she was special)
Stay strong buddy and don't be sad,you will find better girlfriend.

 

Honestly, now you can really just thank her for leaving you like that. Because you know what? People who don't support and understand you, don't deserve to stay in your life. Can you imagine what would happen, if you would not tell her about this addiction during the relationship phase and would only do that, while married (and the outcome would be similar)? I bet that you don't even want to think about this kind of scenario. Weaklings like her don't deserve to stay in your life right now brother. Believe me, if you focus on your self-improvement and staying off PMO, you will 100% find the right person again (who will support you and root for you, regardless of your inner battles). I'm telling you this, because I, myself, have been through something very similar. If you need any other advice, let me know!

 

I was going to write my own bit of advice/wisdom, but this here is how you need to think. You are improving yourself. She just found out about the worst aspects of your (past?) behaviour that you have committed to change. Keep on that positive journey and you will find that you begin to feel more deserving of the love that want in your life. It isn't over, this is the beginning of a bright future for you, no matter how dark things feel right now.

 

good. now its someone else's turn to have sex. dont be greedy. there arent many women to go around. men have to share