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One thing I realized is it is going to be hard, when you get intense urges you want to give in and your mind wonders, no matter how hard you try it seems tomorrow will never come and the urges will never end, you Just have to accept one day at a time, fight one battle at a time, if you think about the end goal in those moments you will become overwhelmed, you must accept that you must survive day by day and you must be ready for that.

 

You did have an urge and that is why you gave in, in that moment you chose to stop fighting and give in.

 

You must fight this one day at a time, start over now and make it the last time.

 

see everyone has had hard days
but giving up only takes you back to the first step and you lose you entire success of 10000 steps you have walked so far.
see this is not an easy thing and never going to get
i was also addicted and now i think have really gained control on my senses
yes i and many others have had panic attacks just like you
but remember the reason why you started to fight the addiction
and go on dude
problems come to only those who are ready for them
so all the best
and message me if required.

 

hey man...u ARE ENOUGH!!!!U ARE MORE THAN ENOUGH TO FIGHT YOUR URGES!!!!
RULE 1-dont act like victim of the circumstances...if u relapsed talk to urself in away that u had abad movie experience....(as guilty feeling is a trick played by ur mind)
rule 2-Dont consider this as real hard fighting.actually u only avoid...so dont give too much importance even to the idea of u ARE A HARDCORE MASTERBATOR !!!!!!NO ...YOU ARE NOT....1 st u digest these ideas that understand what was an urge and ur consciuos activity during that time...Recongnise when were u compulsive and when were u conscious ...it may take time ...but u have go to the core to know,,,, why

 

@Liam_here

Hi Liam,

I can understand if not able to reduce your pain. Liam when we are in this phase generally porn and masturbation is the Easiest escap and we tend to go for that.
But, what's I liked most is that u atleast know that this is problem ( porn). So you are already one step ahead of many of the peers of yours.

I could suggest what you could try some of the things.

1. First and foremost don't go for big targets. Because the comparison at the end and result of failure highly demotivates us.

So just try to do one day more that last streak just one day more. Believe me gradually that 1 day become 2-3 and week and things then onwards doesn't go linearly but exponentially.
( for example I could not even run 600 m at one time but today 10k also possible for me)
so small is best. Incremental progress must be focus.

2. Brother, one day take blank page and analyse your failing behavior. Say for example
When generally you go for fapping time, situation location area like night time, in bed, when feeling lonely , after watching hot girl in social media etc.

And after analysing these thing make counter for them. For example. When I am with my mobile in night alone on bed. I used to fail max. So what I chose , I don't keep my mobile access to me from 10pm to 7 am. ( I keep it in briefcase or in locker.
Now even with my mobile with me my internal strength is enough to stop me watching porn.

So analyse and make your own strategy.
Whenever you found that this situation is going to lead for porn / fapping quickly take counter action which suits you.
So change habit with another habit( good one)

Don't give up social media but, reduce it and don't watch when you are alone.

3. Read as many thing as possible about porn habits and all. This give you inner strength to counter it.
Your brain at porn is good website.
Nofap success stories are best and read how people are overcoming this addiction.

4.express yourself on this forum. Peopel are helpful interact. When you find yourself weak use panic button...


I hope this may help you and work for you.
Best luck brother. Don't worry you will do it....... Have faith in yourself

 

Go to AA or SA if there are any nearby and get a sponsor. Where do you live?
The meetings make you feel that you are not alone

 

Hi.

Let me help you with social media. I'm not going to tell you to uninstall Facebook and Instagram. Instead, do this. You unfollow each and every profile that triggers you, pages that are promoting nudity or half nudity. Make sure that there isn't even a single like this you're following. And instead of these pages, remember there are some good too in Instagram and Facebook. Follow them. Surround yourself with positive vibes. Read books. It's these small, simple things that change a person. Take it one step a day. Baby steps. You'll see improvements.

If these do not convince you to give up porn, let me tell you my story. I was like you at 18. I was like you upto 21. Due to (not excessive) just normal masturbation, now I've this disorder called Phimosis. Now I can't literally have sex without Circumcision. And that circumcision will cost me almost $406.34. Something I can't afford right now. And I'm still a Virgin. Now, you give up porn before it's too late.

 

Google Alcoholics Anonymous or Sexaholics Anonymous and go there