No PMO BUT I’ve been kissing and touching

Lots of us in relationships decided to go for no-porn and no-masturbation reboots, but to continue loving sex with our partners. It may take longer to reboot than hard mode (i.e. no orgasm mode) but he will still be fine. Good luck.

 

I think its important to remain sexually active within a long term relationship because you feel lost and moody without it. The closeness becomes further away too.

 

The only problem with this is that it almost always makes it incredibly hard in the beginning for the addict to resist the urge to pmo. I was adamantly opposed to a hard reboot in spite of my therapist advice. It was only after 2 months when my husband told me how hard he was struggling that we started a 90 day hard mode. We only made it 52 days, lol, but it was a huge factor in helping him stay clean. We then did another 50 days about a month later when again he was struggling. He’s over a year clean. Communication is key! Only he knows when he’s struggling. He doesn’t get the chaser every time but occasionally it still happens. Hopefully one day it will be gone for good.