Why Men Objectify Women

Interesting article...

http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/why-men-objectify-women/

 

Even worse still is that in order to object another you must at the same time objectify yourself.

 

@Limeaid we live in a society that promotes the objectification of women through mass media. Men are visual creatures and not innocent little prepubescent boys who only see motherly characteristics in a skimpily clad hot bodied woman. Women are brainwashed to think that their only value comes from being a sexually desired object. The view is especially reflected in the clothing styles of the past 100 years. The trend that caught on from Victorian ages was of hourglass curvy figures and pumped out bosoms. Then fashion was merged for men and women with clothes of both genders being basically the same and the only girly differentiator became wearing increasingly revealing clothes to look pretty. With this, women were liberated and started questioning why they are objectified. Now I'm not castrated and when I see tank tops with bra straps and tight yoga pants, my survival procreation instinct cannot contemplate a beautiful soul behind that piece of impregnatable meat.

To survive without thoughts of sinning and to avoid gaming women by pretending to be indifferent to their body and faking interest in their minds, I go about my day keeping my eyes lowered so I can't see. This way, I do not objectify women who want to be. I just stop caring. I hope this answers your question somewhat.

 

[PS to my previous post]

Let's say I get my reptilian brain to avoid the sexy body on display and manage to focus on the face. Most of the time, it's difficult to find the person behind the glittering red lipstick and bedroom eye shadow effects amplified with each blink of heavily mascara-clad eyelashes. Not to mention the fake high cheekbones optical illusion and baby noses. And then there's the artificially colored, streaked and straightened or curled hair dispersing all those pheromones in the air that mix with intoxicating perfume that makes me drowsy and soothes me into another plane. I am totally focused on the insides of the human being by now or maybe I'm just pretending to be to get on the inside.

 

That's the most politically incorrect statement you can say in our age.

 

I think for the exact same reason we PMO. I think the last paragraph in the article is best:

"When I objectify women, it’s because I feel disconnected, less present, less in my heart, and less in my body. The remedy is simple now. Get back in my body and heart. Connect to me, all of me. This requires I meditate, connect to someone I love and slow down. It requires I feel what is going on deep down inside of me. Appreciation. Once I get connected to me again, I notice how I can appreciate a beautiful woman and I’m in my body, connected to my heart. It has a totally different quality. She feels it and I feel it. "

 

@firdi I will apologize in advance if I misunderstood your post! finding a woman sexually appealing is not the same as objectifying. If I find a mans bulging bicep appealing and he is wearing a tank top while shovelling dirt then yes it is distracting. Objectification comes in when this is all we notice about the person or we start fantasizing about fucking them in various positions without even knowing them. I will feel the rush of sexual attraction and then turn my mind to something else when it becomes conscious. Sexual attraction is not a conscious act. Objectification is. Sexual attraction is normal and natural. As for the woman you are describing in your last post then at least you know it is an illusion. Many guys find women who wear little to no makeup more appealing and then their are those guys that just want "hot" girls, no matter how they get that way.

I attract the gaze of men quite often and I am definitely not dressed provocatively. I have read of muslim men masturbating thinking about women's eyes. I am not saying that all women are victims here but I do know that not all women who get male attention want it. I also don't think it's good to say that women are responsible for your objectification. Objectification is a choice.

 

This is not a trivial issue and one that in some places gets argued to death (literally). Some ground rules, no disrespect. I admit I'm clueless on much of this and honestly only hope to learn and not impose. Having said that, I'll try to abstain from pointless rhetoric. This is something we can probably not agree upon so I'll just try to understand the other side and leave it at that.

@Limeaid I completely agree about objectification being a conscious choice and different from attraction. And I agree that eyes could be enough for few men to rape or even a goat. What I get from your post is separation of attraction and objectification. A poet's eyes see differently than a rapist's. There are two caveats to attraction of poets. One may feel attracted to the physical beauty and another, the soul. While the rapist has serious issues with objectification. Which of these are we discussing here?

@significantother I'm deeply sorry for what you and your boyfriend had to endure on the street. I'd like to believe that women who cover up would face less harassment but that's not consistent with your experiences. This is actually rather interesting. I'd like you to consider the below video and let me know what you think.

 

@significantother thank you for your perspective on this. I didn't mean to focus on the religious aspect of the video either. Your wishing to be invisible shows very deep emotional responses about the problem of objectification that, I being man, cannot experience.

Here's what would happen if you covered your hair. The first video contrasts walking on the street wearing normal clothes with being extra covered. The second one is the critical perspective about the first video.