I’m new here. Also seeking advice.

Hey Charfonglee, sex during a reboot had been discussed a lot. The consensus is that you can have sex but it will make the time to reboot longer.
If sex-during-reboot works for you, go for it! But if it does not work, try a 90 days sexual sobriety.

I think it is great you girlfriend is so supportive. Talking is essential. But at some point you need to show changes too. And those changes might not be directly linked to the pmo addiction. A change could be to clean, change or paint the house, or join a club. Doing something for yourself and for the two of you. Stay busy with good things.

 

If you are more at risk of relapse when she is away-consider why. If having lots of free time and little to fill it, you are more likely to relapse. Make plans in advance. Be proactive about having wholesome, healthy activities to fill that time with. Be good to yourself. There are ways to feel happy in the moment that don't make you feel shitty afterwards: exercise, reading, socialising with friends, being creative. Plan to do something like this, so you don't fall into old habits to feel less lonely or bored. Also, avoid computers, laptops, tablets unless you have a specific reason for wanting to use it (and obviously, that reason can't be PMO). While you are in these early days, make sure you always use these devices around other people. Go to the library, sit in the living room with family or housemates, get out to a café. While you struggle to make good decisions when alone, avoid being alone. Choosing to leave the house is choosing not to fail. Make that decision often, and allow ypurself to feel great about choosing not to risk PMO.

Great work so far. Good luck hitting all the upcoming milestones. If you can do 10 days clean, you can do another 10. At that point, another 10 is easy. Once you're there at 30 days, 90 starts to seem doable. It is. One day at a time, one good decision after another.

Good luck!