I have an Off Topic Question, Why Are There Soo Many Guests Browsing This Forum Than Members?

My question is in the title.

Why are there soo many guests browsing this forum rather than members?

It kinda of makes me wish they would just join and become part of the community. Is this because there is a high influx of people surfing who aren't sure? Are they possibly people who haven't logged on yet and are just checking things out?

It doesn't make sense to me. Any insight into this would be nice. I guess I am just very curious about things that maybe other people don't notice.

 

Most of us have noticed it. Just pointing out.

 

True.

This begs the question then, what can we do as members to bring them into the fold?

 

Our power lies in what we post, how we word it, and the support we provide to newcomers and all that stuff.

Start with these and I am sure it'll all be useful in getting the job done.

 

I understand that whole thing with forcing. It is easy to get sucked into thinking you have to make things happen.

I like that idea. Is there a way to make it stand out so these ones struggling can feel safe? If it gets buried in the Off Topic section that won't do much good, you know. Is it possible that these masses also include a number of much younger users and that is why they are afraid to join?

I know as a teenager and younger I dealt with numerous irrational fears. But back then a forum like this didn't exist. Nor would I have known if I would have searched out for such a site knowing what I was taught in school about PMO, where "as long as you don't feel guilty it's okay."

 

One idea that just came to mind.

Show a thread that only guests can see and post in. Where admins and moderators can also see and interact with the guests. Maybe also make there less access to read some of the journal threads without becoming a member first, as an incentive to join. Not sure the feasibility of all of this. Just throwing out ideas.

The hiding of certain threads might also be beneficial not just in keeping conversations personal to members, but also from maybe keep out prying eyes that are involved with the enemies of this site. Of course, they can just register at that point. But at least it doesn't make it quite as easy. However, if stuff is more visible, then guests from all over could see the enemies at work more clearly. But I guess that is the job of all of us to report and have moderators / admins help.

I don't think robots could be used though with google search for example to as easily find stuff if only members can access it.

 

Wow, thank you bro for opening up and being super honest! And for bringing about a thread to invite sex addicts also.

That is not easy to break such a long addiction. I know because mine was 13 years before I accepted the Lord into my life and decided that PMO was wrong and that I needed a wife instead. And yes, it is true that the church has failed significantly in this area of being a family raising up a child with regards to supporting an addict in a powerful way. Even getting accountability partners in Celebrate Recovery (CR) was not an easy task because people are prone to not want to actually check in on each other (i.e. get lazy). I was guilty of this also, so I can't just blame everyone else for not partnering very well.

NoFap does also have the benefit of confidentiality while being able to confess to others what has happened. Because I know first hand what it's like by being naive and letting too many people know my struggle in church. Hurting people hurt people, even if you are in church. Church can be like a hospital, so therefore it has a number of hurting people.