I honestly don’t know what to do

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Assalamu'alaikum brother, peace be upon you


first i experienced this kinda thing's including fap in Ramadhan and long streak failed

but to be honest fap in Ramadhan is the worse feeling if i can remember it. i know what it feels like

and for long streak issue, i once had a great streak (not 365 day's yet) its around 180 if i can remember, but i do getting some benefit including woman attraction which i regret so much. because i like her, i like the woman who attract to me. but relapse made everything screw up. i dont even have any guts to talk with her after the relapse (not in relationship yet but we kinda have a real good talk together)

and what follow after that long streak relapse is fucking catastrophe,i feel my benefit all gone, im so thirst on porn and i watch all my used to be favorite porn. it need almost 3-6 month to actually go back again and have a decent more than a week streaks.

i found that when i was relapse in long streak, its more like eat. u know there is a tradition in my office (which probably sin full act) after Ramadhan we go to a restaurant and we will eat so so many food. and ussualy we will eat so much even tho we already full but we eat anyway its like finding an oasis after walk in the desert , we cant control our self..


same as relapse, ur brain will force you to quench that thirst for porn with more and more porn even tho u already sick of it.

how to get back again.

first u must talk to god, ask forgiveness ask for help. u cant do this all alone, u fight with the devil u need god to win this fight. this is Ramadhan, month of forgiveness

second. u must forgive ur self. what done is done, u cant undone that. u want to cry, just cry its ok but forgive urself. u cant undone what in the past, but u can change the present

third. make plan. made a mini plan of streak's, like 7 day's, after 7 day do not relapse make a 14 day's target and so on. that way u will not have any weight in your shoulder on u must go back to 365 streaks


what country are u from brother ? im from Indonesia.... u can pm me tho if u wana ask someting.

hope it help

 

I've had a pretty heavy addiction to porn especially for the last 6 months or so and for the life of me could not get past even 2 days , it does it makes you feel like shit, your constantly depleting yourself mentally and physically and turn into a waster because your focus is not were it should be .

Start again .

I've finally managed to get past a single day, and have built the mindset that this is it enough is enough , since then I sailed through the first day and have no insane urges to go back, it's done

Just start again . You can do it , you did it before , you can do it again . Just make it clear in your mind your starting today, have no lingering thoughts that hang on , where you aren't sure if you will relapse again , instil the mindset so that if any thoughts pop up you know to change your focus and do not let yourself slide down the impulsive route and think fuck it Ive been doing it yesterday even today I'll do it again and start tomorrow. You have to be clear , your ready to sit in discomfort in those moments and let them pass.

I know it's only day 2 for myself , but I've finally broken the cycle , because I am accepting the challenge ahead and the discomfort I will experience, since Ive made the step and proactively working on it the level of discomfort so far has not been excessive.

You just need to break the link or your mind will continue to impulsively think about watching it because it's a good source of stimulation and dopamine , when especially through times of boredom can seem like your just going to do it .

Break the link and you will be back to where you were again .

It's not the end of the world , you only feel this way because at the minute you feel it's hold .

Break the link , whatever it takes and you will not be burdened by the shit you are now

 

seem like u didnt read / understand my post carefully, u even did not answer my Salam...sad

just calm down and read some suggestion that ppl give to you and i say about forgive urself how can you even get on your own feet, if u fuck ur self like this... and who are u man dare to say why would god forgive you ? its god who decide not you , recite the Holly Qur'an, leme remind u again its Ramadhan month of Forgiveness

May Allah SWT Forgive us and give us strength towards this nofap journey



that my two cents btw

 

Well my man Im a muslim too all the Muslims I know they fapp. Its not a big sin. Dont put pression and religious culpability on such thing because its stronger than you this addiction is heavier than cocaïne.
And yes please man in islam we say that Allah love stronger bbeliever than weaker believer. Assume your fault but dont think its a religious sin because its not.

 

Ok so let's think about this rationally. You are struggling with porn addiction. What are your options? Continue to try to rid yourself of this addiction, or go back to watching porn. You already know that watching tons of porn will have bad consequences in your life, so that option is out of the picture. Continuing with NoFap has the potential to improve your life dramatically. Now - you still haven't been successful with NoFap, and that's fine. It's usually hard. But humans are clever - you need to find a smart way to motivate yourself and keep going. What motivates you is ultimately up to you.