How to beat urges?

The single best way to beat urges is to adopt the mindset that your long term happiness is greater than short term happiness. Picture your life goals and then ask yourself how PMO addiction is getting in the way of those goals. Then prioritize which you want more.

 

Urges are tough when starting nofap first time... lets be honest, if none of us had urges, no one would masturbate to porn! Unfortunately I found in my experience, masturbation leads to porn, and porn leads to masturbation (bit of a vicious cycle eh)?

However since I started nofap about a month ago, in my experience there are 2 types of urges. The first urge is a 'pornographic urge' usually this is a trigger caused by a sensation (usually some bimbo with a lot of make up, airbrushed). I like to term this the sexualisation urge. This urge is basically driven by looking at women as purely sex objects. Now obviously from time to time, largely because of the world we live in, you will come across many, many women (some are not even porn stars), who will arouse you in the same way, quite simply because you are filled with quite some porn images, our minds can't differentiate. Once I recognised this first urge, I read a book called Breaking the Cycle by George Collins. And boom... I instantly was turned off by pornstars and treating women like sexual objects. It didn't happen straight away, but if you wish to control your urges, you should check this book out. I will try and make a post on this book as a summary soon and link it here again.

Now the second type of urge I discovered... is not porn related directly. It can quite easily lead to porn because it is very difficult to identify it early in your journey. This type of urge is called the 'physical urge' - basically your body wants to release some semen! Pretty natural don't you think? Anyhow nevertheless, this is also an urge. Once you recognise the urge in your head... you can safely let go of the image in your head. Wait 10/15mins try to relax... meditation or a hobby can help here. Let it pass... and you will feel calm. Gets easier after some days!

And there you are... the 2 types of urges. (1) Sexualisation of Women and (2) Physical / Male Ejaculation urges.

Now the million dollar question..
Which one effects you more?

 

Glad you found this helpful... sometimes you will get a mix of both type of urges, but I always find one is stronger then the other, its just a matter of slowing down a little bit and taking the time to notice which is stronger

 

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