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10 Day habit builder Challenge, April 17-27

For Fapstronauts who are disciples of Christ

  1. Kemar935

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    hey frogs2345, I can imagine how frustrating it is. I am a guy who usually also believes that if you are determined to learn something or stop something you will succeed. But although stopping PMO is something that requires a lot of determination indeed, even more so it requires us given our lives to God, knowing that we can't win this battle without him. I find this really hard myself and am learning. You not being able to see your friends is probably because of the virus right? I'm having the same problem, and I know how frustrating it can be to not see them. Let's keep on going though! awesome keep on practicing your guitar! I'm praying for you!
     
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  2. David's own son, Absalom, turned against him. David wasn't the world's greatest dad; he actually incited much of the family strife he experienced. With PMO, we enflame a God-given desire and turn it into something awful that rages against us and seeks to destroy us. Just as David learned he could trust God to rescue him from the midst of his trial, so can we. We have made our own trouble and have only ourselves to blame for it, yet still God will rescue us.

    Do we trust him?
     
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  3. 7 days for me. Temptation to pmo subtle but there. Seeing some women on TV (even the news) didn't help. :-/ Body and mind pulled to it but not as strong as other times. @frogs2345 picture of walking off the path helpful and stuck in my head. I see a path with clear borders. Seeing myself wanting to step outside the path but resisting putting my foot down. Picturing myself as standing facing the path boundary - my back is necessarily to the Lord who has stopped on the path and looking at me, my face away from his. need to turn my body and face away from the boundary and back to the Lord. Stay away from the boundaries. Stay close the Lord. Remembering Jesus' words now to abide in him, apart from him we can do nothing.
     
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  4. Terrific mental image. Whatever you focus on is what will grow stronger inwardly. Choose carefully where you rest your attention. The price of freedom is eternal vigilance and perpetual mindfulness. Once returning to Christ becomes our habit, it requires no great effort to do so. It will, however, require a very great effort at first! May God grant us strength.
     
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  5. It's not easy. Going for a shower now. The bathroom is a place I've fallen to pmo countless times. Your prayers are so needed. I don't want to come out only to reset my counter and tell you all that I caved in (no pun intended with reference to my Flintstone pic ;-) ) Seriously, it's a beautiful day where I am and many nice looking women passed me by. I'm gonna shower to loud worship music. Remembering how this is very much a spiritual battle also! Will pray for you all.

    Many are saying of me, “God will not deliver him. But you, Lord, are a shield around me, my glory, the One who lifts my head high. I call out to the Lord, and he answers me from his holy mountain...From the Lord comes deliverance. may your blessing be on your people. (Psalm 3:2-4, 8)
     
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  6. frogs2345

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    I haven't seen my friends for over a month. The quarantine has most of my friends stuck at home, and the rest are working but their parents wouldn't let the come over even if they asked. I understand not wanting to spread the virus.

    My sister and her husband kind of flaunt their relationship at me because they know it bugs me. It just makes me feel lonely because I've never had a relationship I truly care about. I've only ever been in one relationship, and that was with a girl who had more than a few screws loose. My life just isn't conducive to meeting women and I also have basically no relations with them besides maybe talking at Bible study. I also feel I just scare them off with my personality.

    Day 2. Practiced a couple songs of just strumming. Wanted to start learning scales but the video I have is 40min long. Did not pmo.

    Psalm 3 reminds me that the Lord guards and restores me. My enemies are no match for the one who made them. My fears are quelled by a God who cares.
     
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  7. I think you are at an advantage if you learn how to manage and defeat PMO before you start any relationship. PMO really messes with one's idea of what love, what intimacy is, and how we view our girlfriend / wife. Read Ephesians 5 to see how a husband ought to love his wife. No body told me that when I was younger and only learning it much later in life (still learning). I wish I knew the Lord deeper and understood what love is about early in my life. Knowing the Lord more is learning to love better and more since he is love: "Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love." (1 John 4:8). Brother, if I look back at my years as a young man, boy did I not know how to relate to the opposite sex! I think it gets better as (or if !!!) we mature. Women look for guys with confidence. Let your confidence and strength come from the Lord. First rest in him, know his love for you, and love him back and delight in him. If there is anything in your personality that needs "refining", bring it to God and ask him to soften the rough edges. I'm still asking him that for me ;-)
     
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  8. @LonelyStrength how I was tempted today and still tempted to masturbate. The pull is so strong but I know this will somehow inevitably lead me back to porn. I don't want to go back to day 0. The mind and body have to be retrained to HATE porn and masturbation but there are times like this I feel like on a thread. I'm glad you guys are with me and I'm grateful we can share like this.

    It's good you didn't succumb to porn. What made you turn to M?

    I am so out of shape and need to do what you're doing...exercise. I am not disciplined but for my health I need to. What kind of regime are your following (cardio, strength training, flexibility...). Are you watching your diet also?
     
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  10. frogs2345

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    Day 3. Practiced a couple fingerstyle songs. Did not pmo

    Psalm 4 has one of the most wonderful verses: "You give me more joy than when their wine and grain abound."

    Our joy from the Lord should be incomparable. We have been saved from death and punishment, and should be rightly more joyful than when unsaved people get bread and wine. It seems silly, but when people have no hope, they put their trust in anything, including a harvest of something temporary.
     
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  11. Sorry guys. I gave into to temptation. The spirit was willing but my flesh was weak. I have no excuse.
     
  12. Kemar935

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    I also just read psalm 5, it's a difficult Psalm to read but definitelly something that reminds us that God doesn't accept wickedness in any way.

    Along with this Psalm I usually also read a daily devotion of max lucado every morning, this time he spoke about P and how it's so much worse then breaking someone's arm. I thought I might share it with you guys

    Dad, would you intentionally break the arm of your child? Of course not! Such an action violates every fiber of your moral being. Yet if you engage in sexual activity outside your marriage, you’ll bring more pain into the life of your child than a broken bone.

    Mom, would you force your children to sleep outside on a cold night? By no means. Yet if you involve yourself in an affair, you’ll bring more darkness and chill into the lives of your children than a hundred winters.

    Actions have consequences. Make this your rule of thumb: do what pleases God. Your classmates show you a way to cheat, the Internet provides pornography to watch. When these things happen, ask yourself the question, “How can I please God?” Psalm 4, verse 5 says, “Do what is right as a sacrifice to the Lord.” You will never go wrong doing what is right! Max lucado
     
  13. Kemar935

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    I'm sorry to hear that, I wanted to reply to your messages yesterday but was in such a hurry that I only read then...
    Let's keep on going again, your just at the back of the chain, but you are still with us, we all together are still one chain, so let's try moving forward! I'll be praying for you
     
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    Yesterday I had a bunch of urges again, and through that day I discovered something. This has been said many times already, but for me it was only then when I fully realised the extend of satan's lies. When I was having those urges yesterday, it wasn't neccesarily that the urges were so strong that I couldn't keep them under control, but throughout those urges there was constantly this feeling of “This is so hard, I can't resist like this everyday, I don't want to have this feeling for weeks, I don't think I have the power to resist for months, so why not give in, why not give in, you have been without PMO for 10 days after all it's pretty good wouldn't you say”.

    Suddenly I really realised what was going on, it's not that the urges I get where unresistable, it was the thought that let me think of the future that made me desperate.

    I guess it's comparable to a sea, when your fatigued and you don't have the energy to swim anymore, if you would see the shore you would be able to go on and swim to that shore, but if it's misty even if the distance was the same we might give up and drown.

    I think once in those moments of having urges satan let's us think we are on this big Ocean, whithout any shores in sight which makes us wanna give in. But urges do pass, and every new day God gives us renewed energy to fight again.

    I peristed, put my trust in God, swam through and after an hour or so got to the shore, my urges faded. And today God gave me new strength to fight those temptations again if needed.
     
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    I completely agree with you, but what if you already have a relationship? I have a Gf that I care about, I know she has a lot of things that have hurt her in the past and I don't want to suddenly drop her only to fix my own problems. She isn't a Cristian, but she is willing to listen, I tell her a lot about God , I tell her that with him she truly can find peace and am praying for her a lot! I told her that I have difficulties not watching P I told her I think it's bad to be addicted. But for her as so many other people in this world she has always been told that P doens't harm, that it's healthy and normal. Even so she appreciatte's me working on it. So yeah, I agree with your view that it's better not to have a relationship before having control, but it's difficult when you already have someone
     
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  16. You guys will have to let me know what you think about Psalm 4. It is
    This is a crucial insight. Well done! This is why we only tackle this addiction one day at a time. It's all we can do. It is enough. TODAY I will not PMO. Tomorrow will be tackled tomorrow. As Jesus himself said, "So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today." (Matthew 6)

    It is vital that we stop listening to and believing lies and start listening to and believing TRUTH. Apart from the truth of Christ, we can do nothing.
     
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  17. If your gf does not share your faith, you are already in a world of hurt and trouble. Will you marry such a woman and raise children with her? How can you ever be united? Your heart runs on a fuel that hers cannot tolerate, so you will never be able to be truly connected. You can see how her stance on PMO is already a step in the wrong direction for you.

    You already have someone? Who? Christ -- or her? It cannot be both.
     
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  19. 11 But let all who take refuge in you rejoice;
    let them ever sing for joy,
    and spread your protection over them,
    that those who love your name may exult in you.
    12 For you bless the righteous, O Lord;
    you cover him with favor as with a shield.

    When life gets tough, where do we find refuge? That will determine whether we rejoice -- or despair. What is the righteousness of v12? It is nothing more than turning to him in our pain in order to find comfort. He will be our protector if we run to him. If we instead run away from him, we expose ourselves willingly to the attacks of the enemy.

    He will not serve us as Lord and Father if we do not want him to do so. But what life is there apart from him?
     

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