[90-CHALLENGE] THE NINETY DAYS CHALLENGE !

Day 8

 

0/90

 

Day 32 feeling great!

 

Accepted challenge. Tomorrow will be the first day of mine.

 

Day 2.
I joined this forum 202 days ago. Of those 202 days, I was 182 days without M’ing to P.

 

5/90. Staying focused on my goals.

 

NO need.It's normal and natural.But u may feel loss of energy and chaser effect may follow.Be alert!

 

Day ;36
Guys,for two days on i feel loss of energy and interest to do my routine such as cycling,dance,meditation,prayer .but anyways i did these things draggingly.But for these many days the energy level and motivation were growing.i had been trying to study, but till this day i have been procrastinating saying u r doing good on no pmo so take it easy and do what u like.And i had been surfing nofap collecting info from threads,journals , watching anime,doing my routine from day 1 which mostly helped me to stay clean .And I feel proud thinking of nofap, it shaped me in many ways, even my parents says to me that u r becoming a better person.

 

I think it's fine, no need to restart the counter

 

Day 1

 

Maybe you need new friends.

 

I second that! Glad to be here with you guys!

 

Checking in...
Day 11/90- no PM
Day 7/90- no alcohol.

My sex drive is out of control but it is giving me a lot of energy and had great sex last night with the wife. Feeling more confident every day. Thanks!

 

8/90. I'm glad it's a long weekend

 

41/90

Doing great! This weekend I worked on systems to capture, organize, and schedule all of the various responsibilities I have in my life. It can be rather complicated to integrate everything in your life into one system, especially when you consider all the different areas of responsibilities (work, home, property management, personal health, relationships, etc.). Despite the complicated effort, let me just say IT WAS WORTH IT. It's so helpful to have a plan that takes care of all your responsibilities! Getting all those thoughts out of your head and into your schedule really helps reduce the daily stress of life. This is invaluable to anyone trying to quit porn, as stress can easily be a trigger to find escape. From my online research on how to do this, I found 3 basic elements of a productivity/task management system:

• The capture - You need inboxes that are quickly accessible where you can write down ANY thought, idea, or task you need to record. If you're like me, stuff comes into your head at all random times and from soooo many different sources (email, texts, coworkers, your spouse, your on brain having ideas, problems or issues you notice with your house or car). It quickly becomes impossible to stay present with the moment you're in when you have so many thoughts in your head, especially if those thoughts are related to responsibilities which have the potential to cause stress. Gotta have somewhere to write it all down in an organized way so that you can attend to it later at an appropriate time. This step was challenging and took a lot of careful thought.
• The weekly plan - Schedule a regular time for yourself EVERY week where you examine everything you've captured (thoughts, ideas, tasks to complete) and decide on what you want/need to get done this week and even make a rough schedule of when you'll complete each task. Remember to always break tasks or projects down into simple and manageable chunks.
• The daily plan - Each morning, review your tasks for the day, make any adjustments you need and set a concrete schedule for yourself. Remember to provide yourself with amble breaktime so you don't wear out too quickly.

I could go into a bunch more detail, but at some point you have to figure out for yourself what works. Each person is a little different. I'm finding this to be a HUGE stress reliever and productivity booster. I hope these ideas are useful to someone here!

 

Day 12 Checking-in

 

05/90

 

day 67/365...

 

07/90. First week has passed. Feels great.

 

Last night I spent the night with a woman that I've been seeing for a while. I had told her earlier about the porn and what I'm doing about it. I also told her it would probably take a while for me to be ready for intercourse. Even without the earlier porn use if I like someone then it takes a while before I reach sufficient comfort level to engage in intercourse. Anyway we got physically intimate with no intercourse or orgasm on my part . I enjoyed it and so did she. Thankfully because of my years in12 step recovery my ego has shrunk enough where I was able to be honest with her. It sure takes the pressure off.
Another day . One day at a time.