27 year old and still a virgin

I have been masturbating on porn since I was 14 yrs old .. after I was around 18 yrs my academic and mental health was very much affected of which I decided to quit this thing . Was masturbating like 6-7 times per day that time . I finally had put this on a hault on this . But I started experiencing many urine infections which around took me 2-3 yrs to get back on track. Then I some how got my focus and everything back and started my college days . But the college days wasn't easy as well and I somehow lend up again into porn and masturbation and started there for a year or two again . Then again I put this on a hault . I remember my max was 30 days . Although during my prof exams I never use to masturbate but it was unconsciously done as was busy . So never thought so hard on this . And my main trigger at that time was lonliness . I am social awkward even now . Had many crushes . 3-4 girls have before proposed me but I use to loose interest in them after a month . Was busy masturbating . Really lost the contact of real world . No real friends . Had finally one girlfriend that too stayed for 2 months and then got cheated . So had a break up . This is the time I have to react for my career . Heard about NoFap from one of my friend . Read many articles on this and all matched to my symptoms and behaviour I was facing . So decided to give it a try but as days passed I realised I was àddicted to it and this was the reason behind everything I suffered since my whole childhood . It's my 31st day on NoFap pmo hard mode . Ànd I feeling lonely and the fact that I am still a virgin is killing me and the urges are on peak . Please help . I want it to make through 200 days . I am working on it .

 

Thanks a lot brother . I think it's the karma that is returning back to me . In my college time there were two girls who told me that they love me but i rather friendzoned them just because of my habits and fear of commitment .
Thanks to nofap for the clearity which was missing . Many missing goals were lost in mist . Need to work on everything .
I am not saying that I didn't got the opportunity . I mean to say I missed it because of my habits .
And now when I am on nofap the urges are so super high that I feel like contacting them back but I know it's not right because that would be out of urge nothing much and this is not what I am.

 

Thank you brother

 

Yeah bro . I know we are on same track .. I have read your many posts . All sounds like me narrating my story . Even our target are also same . I too on day 31 and my target is 200. Thanks for making me realise that I am not alone in this fight . Together we will win this thing.

 

Yeah I have a guitar . Always wanted to learn since childhood but never got chance though .

 

My relationships never progressed to that level of intimacy and now as I see I think the reason behind is simple .. I was afraid of giving comitment and was occupied by porn and masturbation that I never looked that way . Although the last one of which I was pretty serious about her ,she just cheated on me and I caught her red handed so I had to break up with her . It was difficult. Now I blame PM for everything .

 

Yes you are right in saying that we are always learning new things in life. . I agree with you .

 

And as it would be our first whenever we get a chance .. we will try to give our best shot and have nothing to compare with. So in this sense I think we are at some advantage.

 

No I haven't tried this cold turkey thing . I randomly tried NoFap and I somehow around 21 day realised that I am kind of subconsciously addicted to it .I mean I have never given a thought about it. So i decided to quit and I am doing fine now compared from where I started . And I want to keep on going and give my best shot into it. This is definitely good for me I know that .

 

Brother in order to survive and to be healthy we should not expect too much and it hardly matters if the opposite side is a virgin or not . And it should not be a matter of concern . That should never define a loyalty . There are many other aspects of personality even of which we should focus on . We should rather focus on ourself for now . It's our time to grow .
Virginity is not the dignity it's the lack of opportunity.

 

We are actually animals and to be specific social animals so it's normal to feel the nature's call to conceived and have sex but as our brain is more developed than any other animal we have control over many things and have much freedom too .
In that quote I just want to say that we should not feel bad about it or feel ashamed of that thing and rather focus on developing skills to cope up with the environment . One day everything will take into place with time . We can't change the beginning but we can change the way things end . Thats in our hand. It's just a part of life and not the whole of the life . Every chapter will take its time to reveal itself . Just be patient and follow nofap and develop skills . We'll get through this storm brother .