Someone talk me out of this (trans escort)

Real talk...
If you want strangers to talk you out of it, you are too far gone.
Hope you didn't do it, cuz the guilt is going to be astronomical sometime in the future.

 

That.

 

I mean, on one hand, where else are you gonna be able to get pegged by a hot trans escort, that is what you wanted, right? At the same time only you know how you're going to feel afterwards. Maybe you're just thinking too much about it. Its a simple sexual experience. If it leads you further down the rabbit hole, oh well.

 

Its important to remember that a sexual experience with another person is a lot different than being addicted to PMO. Reason I'm here is my PMO has so badly affected other area's of my life I almost can't do things with another person anymore. But I mean, as long as theirs like, lube I guess you don't really need to "perform" to get what you want. I don't exactly see it as this hugely negative thing, and hot trans girls are in high demand, most dudes won't ever get that chance unless they pay so. Up to you but if that's your choice I'd leave it at that.

 

Ah! I see. Don't take anything I say too seriously, lol. (I know that you wouldn't mind me, still just saying.)

 

In what sense

In what sense is a negative effect on your life not objective harm? Do you think your mind and emotions are less real than money or your body? Psychological damage is arguably more serious than 'objective' loss; a physical scar can usually be covered up, forgotten and explained away, but a scar in your psyche is way harder to articulate, resolve, or otherwise deal with.

 

There is harm in some sexual activity. Nofap came about because of the harm in fapping. Porn is supranormal sexual stimulus and that is known to be harmful. Prostitutes also provide supranormal stimulus, because they are paid to go beyond what a normal girl would do.

Why do you want to be talked out of this if you believe there is no harm?

 

I’ve enjoyed reading your thoughts on every thread I’ve seen them in. I’ll spare you sugar coating the thoughts I have because I respect you as a poster and I think you’d always be willing to do the same for anyone.

Sex isn’t removed from emotions for healthy people.

This would be very bad for you.

How I get there:

A bias free thought in an adult is a fantasy, but that’s not a bad thing. Going Cartesian isn’t practical, or even reasonable that bias would be removed.

But it’s possible to apply Ockham’s Razor which I think looks like this:

These forums are full of P addicts lying to themselves that their addiction has special circumstances that make some things ok for them. The particulars are always different, but the root cause is always the same. The root cause isn’t interesting or special.

It’s what we do as addicts. It proves that this is an addiction.

Often times I like to debate to figure out what I really think. This isn’t one of those times. If there was a way to accurately score this; I’d bet everything I own against $500 that banging a transgendered person prostitute will make you less happy and healthy in the long run.

In the end you get to do you... but I think you are wise to consider trauma if it’s a bad choice. No matter what you do there are lots of people here who care about you as a community member and will support you as you want to be supported.

 

The problem is that your addicted brain is not thinking rationally and you want to debate this rationally. You should reboot so that you can think rationally then we can have a true rational debate, otherwise we are going to keep going round in circles. I know that when I am deep into the addiction, I will rationalise whatever I want to happen.

 

A nicer, better way to make the same point I was trying to make.

I’ll stay out of this and any similar discussion because I never do a good job of that lol.

@FellatiousD I wish you good luck in the PM journey and finding what you want. I’m a fan of your posts and I wish you well.

I’m 24 hours from my most recent reset and I try to run away from thoughts about what I need to work on at the wrong times lol. My addict brain takes me anywhere but where it needs to go.

I feel settled on what I need to do now. I just struggle to get there. My view of the healthy happy life isn’t unique and doesn’t need representation to help others in debates lol.

Good luck in your journey!

 

I wasn’t being biased, I was talking from experience. I’ve been a sex addict for years and it escalated into Trans escorts. I found it a lot more addictive than porn to be honest and way more expensive. I reached points where I’d try and rationalise my behaviours and convince myself I was into it. It’s called cognitive distortions. Learning and being aware of these distortions are a key role in beating addiction. There were times I’d feel really disgusted with the act, shameful and powerless and times where I’d think don’t beat yourself up about it, its no big deal. I realised that being compassionate to myself and not so critical about the situation was a better option, but still had to accept this wasn’t the way I wanted to live my life. In all the acting out experiences I had there were some enjoyable wild moments. There was when I used drugs in the past but they were fleeting, keeping me chasing that bigger hit. I just thought this site and the reboot was working towards being the best version of yourself and setting goals for an amazing life. If your future goal is to settle down with a trans or dude then that is great and work towards that. Why don’t you try dating transgenders and get to know them before you sleep with them I’m sure they’d feel a lot more human and respected if you did. This would help you realise if it was your thing and not just a perversion. I personally have come to realise through meetings, counselling and talking to trans sex workers that just using them for sex is addictive behaviour. But no beef, I was just trying to put you off and save you a lot of pain.

 

Don't do it, I did once and it made me loathe myself to the point of wanting to commit suicide. + it turned out that person was even living close to where I was living at the time, it was a walk of shame around my neighbourhood in constant fear that someone would find out. The condom broke too when I did it, and I got feacies on my penis, I did not get clean for a very long time laying in the shower like a rape victim, and had nightmares about it.