[90-CHALLENGE] THE NINETY DAYS CHALLENGE !

Day 60 No M - 2 Months! 1 more to go!
Day 165 No P

We all are

Have a good one guys!

 

Guys I failed again. Once again it happened after a few drinks. I'm going to start over, and this time refrain from any alcohol. It just puts me in too vulnerable of a mindset. I feel ashamed and stupid but this is the reality of what happened. I'm tired of this cycle and I realize that I just can't risk having even a few casual drinks while I attempt nofap.

I have determined that I'm going to skip back to the 30-day challenge, and do it without any alcohol. If I succeed with that, then I'll come back to try the 90-day again. Thanks for all the support and I hope to see you back here soon.

 

26/90

 

Day 2.

 

Right on brother!

 

Checking in.
Day 29/90- no pm
Day 25/90- no alcohol

When others talked about flatlining I didn't know what they meant- now I do...

 

Day 41
@hellofriend86 I started flatlining after the first week. I found it quite scary at first. I was really wondering when it would stop for me. After almost 40 days I stopped flatlining, wich comes with its own challenge.

 

Yes, that feeling sucks. But every time you try again, that's you making the part of yourself that wants to stop just a little stronger. And one day, that part of you will be stronger than the part that wants to go on this way. Keep at it.

 

Yes, that's one of the things that makes this so hard, that temptation is everywhere. The only thing you can do is say no, every time. I've found that every 'no' makes you a tiny tiny bit stronger, even if there's an occasional 'yes' in between. Keep saying no.

What has been helping me these last days is also to take a literal break whenever I come across a temptation like that. I put a timer at 0:30, look away from the computer or close my eyes and ask myself if I want to go there. First the answer is often 'yes', but after a few seconds the 'yes' starts to lose its strength and gets replaced by a 'no'.

 

Day 3. I joined this forum 220 days ago. Of those 220 days, I was 196 days without M’ing to P.

 

Check in day 24/90

 

Finished 30 days challenge and I will start this challenge now
Day 30/90

 

30 seconds is good. But I'd like to suggest that distracting yourself for at least 15minutes during vulnerable states will help tremendously especially if it's accompanied by a strong urge - because urges roughly last only for 15-20minutes.

 

I'm in

 

Congrats man!! All the best to you on your next challenge. Thanks for sticking with it and becoming an inspiration for the rest of us. I will get there in 88 days!!

 

Hey man, sorry to hear that you have to start over again. Trust me, I've been there so many times. I believe you're learning a very valuable lesson about alcohol.

I don't think alcohol is a bad thing by itself, but I'm becoming more and more convinced that MOST people trying to quit porn would have a much easier time doing it without alcohol. I hear people again and again saying they had a relapse "after a few drinks." It doesn't take much (you don't need to be anywhere near fully drunk) to get you in a compromised situation where your willpower is low and your mental clarity is diminished. Porn is often there waiting to strike. I definitely found this to be true for me.

All the best to you in the 30 days challenge. We'll see you back here in a month!

 

2/90

 

40/90

 

You're right. Yesterday the 30 seconds worked. Today not. I started clicking on stuff, from not really sexy to a bit sexy to going too far. I have to reset again. Once again the cause was insecurity and frustration over my chaotic working day. Which I saw coming and thought I was prepared for, but not enough.

 

0/90..starting