Some advice please

Try meditating..and decide that u aren’t gonna M, it’s not meant to be that way!
If your urge is a Physical Feeling down there, then I’m sure Meditation will help, if its Mental, it needs more work!

How bout working out ? Get tired so u don’t have Energy to M?
And please work on the psychology and Approach to M, I Relapsed Today out of aimlessness..so That PSYCHOLOGY NEEDS TO BE DIAMOND SHARP

 

Is 4 min of Spot Running, some yoga Cool? And its not really the ideal situation to be in a public place now..

 

Hey @Starshower,

Your post made me instantly think of Cold Trukey Writer (https://getcoldturkey.com/writer/)
Basic app is free, so you don't have to spend any money.

It's a brilliant app for Windows and it literally locks your computer so you can't use anything else but the writer for:
a) a set amount of time
OR
b) a set number of words/characters written

So this will stop you from procrastination and prevent you from watching PMO at the same time. When you know you just have to do it, you'll do it. I think this would be perfect for you.

Please let me know if you'll use it and how you'll get on with it

 

@Starshower
It seems u write well, what an eloquent expression of your feelings!
But worry not, just do something that lifts u out of that doldrum,
Try reading some more about this addiction, perhaps understand its core better?

 

It's no point using this software if you waste time on your phone.

The only thing to do is to also block your phone (and iPad and tablet and any other device you might use to waste time).

I know because I'm struggling with a similar addiction. I've struggled for many months but finally I gave up and installed a blocking software on all my devices.

This worked for a while, but then I found a way around it.

So I had to be even more extreme. Now I only keep a dumb phone at home. No computer, no TV, no tablet, no internet, no smartphone. (I only use these in my office, but not at home).

And guess what happened? Things that I couldn't do before are now easy. Didn't have time to read? Now there's plenty. Didn't have time to paint? Now I make on average one painting per week. Didn't have time to write? Just wrote a shirt story over the weekend.

If you want to fight the addiction, you also have to change your habits. And at this stage where I'm at, the only way is to make it absolutely impossible for me to waste time on the internet. And it works. I suggest you try something similar.

 

What time do you write? This is actually relevant, for example if you're familiar with The Artists Way they have this practice of morning pages. There is something about the morning which seems to lend itself to creativity. Specifically it's 3 pages of stream of consciousness first thing in the morning, so even for someone who can't write well they can just put down whatever.

I would get a little bit more specific in that you need to actually be up and [relatively] awake in the morning. If you wake up at noon, you can't do anything since you've slept through the morning. There are potentially different times in the morning that has different effects too based on chronobiology. (see below) But even not accounting for that there's the practicality of getting it done upon waking, and perhaps transitioning from dreaming.

So there are two issues right: Relapse prevention/insight into your own psychology and the creative endeavor of the kind of writing you do, so you can write for two different reasons. If you look at this pic below creativity is actually around midnight, may be worth a shot if you are up at that time but we know it may not be a good idea to be up late because of PMO. (btw I wonder if that time fuels the Coolidge effect and novelty seeking) 10-12 might be a good time to try.

Keep in mind too this all assumes you have a relatively normal circadian rhythm and general functioning, and if your area participates in daylight savings time you need to add 1 to all this but there is a kind of optimization for good timing. Practically it's more about getting a sense for yourself, like you can notice there's a time when you do have arousal in the morning, and maybe a few hours after that you do feel most awake and alert.

 

I just tried the morning pages practice today, man it's a lot. It mostly ended up being a lot of ideas I already know and just kind of getting them down, things I know that can help but it's interesting because at other times when you are inspired you can write a lot even when you're not a writer. Anyway I'll try to stay with it a while, reading other people and getting ideas to inspire you during the day no doubt helps.