THREE REASONS TO QUIT FEMDOM

Hey guys.

I'm a 23 years old man. English is not my first language, sorry if I did mistakes. I was a porn addict for 6 years. Almost all the porn I've watched was femdom. It damaged many aspects of my life. But last year "I saw the light" in Nofap. Now, I want a normal respectful relationship with a woman rather than that awful fetish. One step to get rid of my addiction was aknowledging that femdom is wrong. And understanding how much femdom harms a man helps me a lot in that step. I learned a lot in my journey, and I want to share with you how I think right now. I wrote this according to my experience, I'm convinced of what I said. But I'm not a psychologist or some kind of expert. And I can improve my text in the future, by learning more.

If you are reading this, you must know what femdom is. Some people out there on the internet tend to say "Everyone has sexual fantasies", "It's just a kink", "It's not harmful", "If it makes you happy, then do it"... I disagree, femdom disrupts your whole life. I'm gonna give 3 reasons why all men should quit femdom forever:

1. It messes up personality

Femdom is based on humiliation, and making men feel inferior. When you watch or do those things, you send a bad message to your innerself. The results of absorbing the femdom ideas are low self esteem, lack of confidence, fear, pathetic social habilities, depresion, broken masculinity. And some people can take advantage of those features, they will insult and bully you. Femdom conditions you to be abused at school, at worksplace, at daylife.​

2. It is imposible to find a girlfriend

Let's be honest almost all girls are not interested in a submisive man. They love tough men full of confidence and maybe a little dominant. Even strong, leader, or bossy women won't like femdom, because they will never accept you forcing a weird disgusting fetish on their lives. I know there are a lot of women who claim to be dominant or "mostress" on the internet, but actually they don't like that stuff they only want your money. The true dominant woman (if she exists) will never love you because she will not respect you. She can replace you whenever she wants, there are thousands of submisive men and only a few women who want this.​

3. It escalates to extreme

Like most of porn genera, no matter in what point you start watching or doing femdom, you always need more extreme stuff over time. And you will end searching for disgusting and disturbing acts. I mean It always become worst. Another side effect is ED (erectile dysfunction) or PIED (porn induced erectile dysfunction). You won't be able to "get hard" with a hot girl because you will only get aroused for fetish related stuff. That ED is mostly mental because there is no physical problem, but your brain is not working well.​

I believe sex is one the most delightful things men can do in their lives but in a normal way. I mean what can be better than kissing, necking, touching, smelling, and of course, the intercourse ... We don't need to be wierd to enjoy sex.

I want to know what you think about this matter and also if you have questions, or maybe you disagree with me. Please let me know...

 

I hope you never go back to those humiliation videos. They damaged our lives but not anymore. Looking for activities which we are good at, is a great way to appreciate ourselves again. That is important for recovery, valuing what we are, and what we can do.

Maybe the love for women can degenerate in something awful like femdom. I never thougt in that way, it makes some sense. I had developed my fetishes, long before I started to watch porn. I'm still asking where they came from. But I was always attracted to women's body in multiple ways, and femdom was like the dark side of that attraction. Porn fed the femdom fetish over the years and it grew inside me. If I hadn't watched porn, I would have focused in normal sex instead. I think, being attracted to women (without femdom) is our natural state and going back to it is one of the major goals of my journey.

If you like women who are in charge then go for them, being a strong man yourself. Probably they like rebels.... I wouldn't say they are exactly the women I like. But it is pretty similar to yours. I like women who are competitive communicative and intelligent but also cute and compasive.

And I also found myself sometimes doing tasks for some women I met. They took a lot of advantage of that situation. I was pretending to be something that I'm not. And They didn't even want to be my friends, every time they approached was for asking for favors. Yes, you are right, I think my attitude was caused by femdom. Last week I make the decision to stay away from a girl who was trying to do that.

 

Thanks a lot. Comments like yours motivate me to continue... Keep going you too!

 

That's great. You are already rebooting in a proper way. Porn was such a big problem in our lives. But soon we will forget it, for good. When I think about the things I used to watch, I notice some of them are just disgusting. Probably the same thing is happening to you. Apart from amplifying our fetishes, porn also makes us to think they are normal and the only option we have. We must meet real women, instead of pixels on a screen. Real life is the only way to learn, reinforce what is good for our sex life and forget the fetishes.

You are right, that subserviant state is a mindset. Staying away from manipulative women, is not enough. We have to change our minds.

90 days... In my firsts attempts two weeks seemed imposible, but today at 23:59, I will achieve 90 days. You also have an amazing streak. One month is a challenging level, and you have achieved it. Well done!

 

What do you mean with PM?
sexual masochism disorder. is it a disease?

 

Congrats for the 20 days. You are probably in a flat-line by now, but it'll improve. Be patient, it takes time. In my logest streak wich was of about 90 days, I was able to have normal erections, but I only got the morning one once. And I had sometimes the flat-line during that period, it is normal when you are recovering.

 

You started already, avoinding PM is the most important step. Congrats for the 9 days. My fetish gets weaker every time I'm about to reach 1 month. Without the influence of P in our lives, we start to look for real women instead of weird fantasies.