First time sex after quitting PM

Hello @jn75. How long are you into rebooting already? Having sex with your partner is something beautiful! There is nothing wrong about it and if you do not experience any chaser effect I think there is nothing that speaks against it. In the contrary, I believe it will help you rewire your brain and will get you and your SO closer together which is always good when fighting an addiction!

 

I told my wife I needed 30 days and she's been very supported. At day 30 she noticed how much I've changed and how helpful I've been that she now given me another 30 days. I'm using my time to focus on myself and my fitness. Although I've damaged my ankle from running and spent 2 days resting. I'm on day 38/39 now gonna get to 90 before I have sex again. I hit flatline on day 11 and only just started getting morning wood again

 

I'm currently on a 55 day NoFap streak. My only orgasms were with my wife. And as the weeks went by I noticed such a difference in the sex. IMO I would keep having sex and obviously no PM. I feel like me channeling all my sexual energy towards her helped me tremendously. No porn even soft porn that might be on instagram or even women in bathing suits I cut all that out. Everything channeled towards her. Give it 3 weeks to a month you'll see a huge difference in how your brain reacts

 

Try to jog more. Also research cold showers they work wonders especially first thing in the morning

 

I can relate. I suffered from ED through porn, fear of failure and anxiety. For me having sex with my SO who I love while staying away from PM helped me a lot. A huge part recovering from lost libido is to regain confidence and security. Leaving porn away will be a huge boost showing you that you can control your behavior! Do not stress yourself while sex or are ashamed or scared if you cannot get hard completely. There are many ways you can pleasure each other without penetration. The most important thing is that you both have fun and enjoy each other. If you feel it is counterproductive though of course its also fine to tell your SO that you need some time as @Libzam did. There is no right or wrong here just what feels best for you personally.

 

For me personally I've never really enjoyed sex throughout my life it was always oral or foreplay for me. I used to O so much when I was MO'ing that even O never felt great. Think that's why I wanna go the full 90days hard mode before my next O and my next O will be during penertration I will feel like I've lost my virginity loool

 

You are overthinking. You are married. What is the problem with married sex?

 

Agreed. Why confess your turn ons to a stupid robot, when you can share that with your beautiful wife?

 

i am feeling the same as you. I am on day 13 feeling the anxiety and everything. I go sleep early then wake up 3 hours later and can not get back to sleep to the sun comes out.

 

I'm on 90 days hardmode, so no O for me.
I've told my wifr i the beginning, that does not mean she cannot have sex.
It is hard to let go and let her decide when and what but extremely satisfying to let go of self and be ther for your SO.

 

what kind f woithdrawal symtoms do you get?