Progress Thread (Feel Free To Join)

You should set your streak counter on this forum to give you that extra bit of motivation for starting out on your first few weeks of NoFap. If you are truly doing NoFap correctly and using your sexual energy for staying busy and being productive, then over time you won't care about your streak as much eventually and you will embrace the new life style you have developed. It's just a nice bit of help starting out and it definitely kept me going for that little difficult stretch of time where my brain was overwhelmed by this new change!

Also to add to what Thinking_Differently said, in addition to writing down the negatives that NoFap brings, also write down the benefits and your goal in ending your addiction. Only by doing all three of these things was I able to finally man through what I had previously thought to be impossible. Each relapse is a test of your determination to see if you will waver or get back up unfazed and adapt to your personal battle field. My last relapse (2 days of pure sexual gratification and guilt after an 18 day streak) made me stronger in my determination than I've ever been before and I'm still battle hardened from it right now. The massive slump in my life was so noticeable from it that I told myself that I never want that loss of energy and brain fog ever again and I'd do anything to get out of it. I tasted what it felt like to be free and realized that it's the only way I'd want to live my life going forward.

Didn't read this before I replied, but you're spot on with this!!! That's the right perspective mate! Don't let go of it!

 

Doing great! Thinking of ways I could possibly do a side hustle around my community to really keep myself busy and put my sexual energy to good use! Literally no urges whatsoever lately and I feel like I'm in 100% control of my body whenever I see a woman. Lately I have decided to stop chasing after women and not be like the 99% of men who have no value. Women are born, but men are made, so I plan on really using the NoFap energy for this reason. Going to start really developing myself as a person and also working out to compliment the weight loss diet I'm currently on. Also just made an excel of all my life stats so that I can improve in all of them and find areas to fix if needed and see where I went wrong (I have an entire NoFap sheet thanks to this forum and the stats clearly showed that the first few days are really tough, and that wet dreams give wickedly difficult urges especially on the third day)! Thanks for keeping me accountable to post here and I appreciate that! Also be especially on guard for these next two days because you will really need to focus on your motivations and goals to get past the strong urges to come!

 

Lately I haven't been under any kind of stress and haven't had nearly any urges, so I also agree that stress is a major factor for the creation of urges. I remember in the past always having the biggest urges whenever I got upset or stressed, so there's definitely a big correlation there. The meditation and exercise has definitely gotta help alot! That's really awesome to hear that you and your wife are getting along alot better now, and that gives me hope that when I get married eventually, that all this work I put into saving my seed for my future spouse will improve our relationship!

 

Best Method for Long Term Results: Get busy, exercise, use your newly gained energy from retaining for 10 days to get out there and build your mind and body. You will no longer want to give into urges. This is where I'm at right now and I'm rock solid on my purpose and know why I'm on retention, so I won't waiver.

Best Method for Starting Out: Take Cold showers cuz heat down there=boners and the cold will keep you away from sexual desire like a shield. If you do get a boner, get the blood flowing away from your junk by doing exercise or standing on your tip toes and tightly flexing your legs (this has fast results like probably about 20 seconds). Don't hold in your pee, cuz pee is hot and that's gonna trigger you also. Go frequently. Also don't wear tight clothes on the lower half of your body. Just some tips for those difficult days.

 

Ah yea as men we must stay calm and keep our composure during both the bad times and the good times. Beta means to constantly fluctuate, so I've really been trying hard to stay calm in all situations lately. Speaking of which, I almost relapsed last night because of overconfidence, however I have a sticky note above my bed that says "Remember Your Goals" and it helped me snap out of it and to stay committed to my purpose and go to sleep without PMO. I'm definitely starting to get bad urges these past few days, so gonna be sure to be extra cautious going forward cuz I could have fallen.

 

Relapsed last night... What matters is that I've identified what the triggers were and will not let them affect again me going forward. I'm comforted to also know that not all progress is lost in a relapse unless you continue doing pmo, so I will be sure to keep on going and get back up from this even stronger than before. Really happy that this second streak nearly doubled my first, and I have definitely proven to myself that I can do this! I will going forward be 100% committed to this and not hold anything back like I did these past few days (I got thrown off my schedule for the holiday and it killed me).