Dating during Quarantine: My Take

Here's my scenario: I left town at the beginning of the government mandated lock down because i lived in a city that has and continues to have the highest rates in the country. When this all began i had an INFLUX of past partners i casually dated ALL reach out at once, i've never felt so popular!!! I decided to reconnect with the one i saw the most potential in and cut off the others- from there this is the outline of my story:

Phase 1: At the start it was fun, sort of, daily phone calls, talking for long hours and bonding over the fear for the pandemic and reminiscing over the few hang out we did have prior.

Phase 2: The walls begin to come down, conversations become more personal, the bond becomes stronger but at the same time harder because of the separation and the increased uncertainty as cases begin to worsen.

Phase 3: Now that this is the new normal, people begin to resume again life while working around the new protocols of the masks and "social distancing". People are beginning to get quarantine fatigue and making exceptions, seeing closer friends and taking the risk for a quick hookup with others within their circle.
*In this time i am still away in another city* And because of that you loose touch, since you can not see each other theres less to talk about other than the breaking news. As i'm watching their social media i start seeing their activity of being out and about only leaving my mind to wander all day and all night and really just emotionally crumble.

At the end of it all, it just turns into emotional pain. It is in fact a long distance relationship and ends up being a waste of a connection with someone who "could have been", just good old case of bad timing.

This all brought me to NoFap. In the time apart i was able to evaluate my challenges in relationship before all of this, it really came down to my addiction to P, and my constant PMO causing me to loose interest in finding a partner which is why i was unable to connect before. I wanted to do better, but now this NoFap journey is for ME.

 

Essentially, dating in quarantine is not possible. It frustrates me because there are people who are still willing to hook up on dating apps right now. As much as i want to take the risk i am NOT that bold!!! but i have so much FOMO!.

 

Thanks, I like that advice. Weather quarantine his here or not we still don’t have cure...