All my romantic attempts result in the same story :(

Thats WAY to early to do in dating, women want MYSTERY not an open book especialy early in a relationship .

 

Had that happen to me a ton TOO when i was getting into the dating game in fact the exact same words i have heard. Creat the mystery so she doesnt know were you stand that uncertinity will create attraction from her NEVER BE PREDICTABLE . NEVER TELL THE AFTER A FEW DATES OR FIRST YOU LOVE THEM oh my.

 

I have to agree with the upper replies.
I made the same mistake. I fell in love with a friend I know for 10 years. And we somehow ended in bed together. Slight PIED problems at first, later was ok, but I was telling her that I am open to a relationship, it's not that I just want to fuck her.
BIG MISTAKE
After a while, she said that it's so strange with me because usualy in the first few dates she wants to rip off clothes from someone as soon as she sees him, but not with me. She said that with me she fistly wants to ask me how I am and then rip off clothes. Of course that the last thing was a lie, just to make me feel better. She lost attraction because I didn't fuck the hell out of her (PIED problems) and I was an open book (told her that I want her as a serious partner).
We didn't talk for almost 2 months. On thursday we will go for a drink and some talk, I will try to restart the sparks, but my chances are low. Wish me luck.

I hate this characteristic of women, but they really are such..we cant do nothing aabout it.

The girl that loved me the most is the one I didn't feel the real connection. For me she was just for fun. We had amazing sex, but I was rather cold towards her. She fell in love with me so unbelievably hard, after I left her she barely got over me... Wierd but thats how it works...

 

I used to be in a similar situation as you, and it resulted in similar things.

I would suggest that next time you see a girl that you think is cute, be very careful to tell yourself, "I don't love her romantically." Because let's be honest, you don't. If you're attracted to a girl, say hi, maybe try to hang out and talk a bit, but don't "fall in love" and then ask her to be your girlfriend.

If you're not getting a real sense that she likes you back, move on. It's actually a good thing—you don't want to be stuck with someone who pretends to love you but is just with you because they are insecure do you? You want somebody who loves you a lot!!! Some girls are shy, so don't take shyness as proof that a girl isn't interested. However, if they start pulling the "We're good friends" thing, then ditch your plan. If you like the girl enough to just be friends, then fine, but don't hang around trying to get her to like you.

Oh, and in your search for a girl, don't just fall for the first one that likes you back. Make sure that you are on board with her values, with her lifestyle, how she spends time with friends. Those things WILL cause tons of trouble later on if you're not both similarly minded. And finally, don't chase after another guy's girlfriend, even if he's "not good enough for her." Leave it alone.

 

Lots of advices coming feels good reading

 

The thing that i hate to tell other dudes is that women like a man

who takes control, runs the show, and doesn't give a crap about her.

It always runs contradictory to what I wanted, but it seems like

if I meet a woman, the more we talk, the more I'm headed to the friend zone.

All that talking, the questions, the answers, all that does, in my case,

is demonstrate to a woman that I NEED HER.

If I emotionally need her, a woman is allergic to that.

 

Wish I had such advices before... I made so much mistakes...
This forum needs to be shared to every teenage boy in the world.

 

I wish i had the above advice above written my others on this when i was between the ages of 13-25 but its called growth and learning i learned the hard way ALOT before i put things together

 

I agree, but I don't think this only applies to women. Nothing turns me off more than a woman telling me that she needs me. I am not the solution to anyone's problem, I am not here to complete the existence of anyone.

 

Yeah! Feeling hurried is a great way to put it. I felt the same way. When dating, don't just look for someone who will accept you for who you are, look for someone who you can also accept. And girls aren't usually going to show you enough about themselves for you to know right away. You might get a vibe, sure, but you don't want to jump into an intense relationship or marriage even before knowing that you can tolerate the person's worst aspects. The first year of my relationship with my girlfriend was idyllic, almost nothing went wrong, and we never argued. That should have been a little warning sign, because it showed that one or both of us was not good at expressing their needs/wants/frustrations.

Remember: if dating is compared to a job interview, you should BOTH be interviewing each other.

 

Don't feel bad. Making mistakes is the best way to learn.

Anyway, a woman's rejection is more about her than you.

 

Yes that is an excellent point.

Everybody is repulsed by clinginess or neediness.

But I believe that a guy who keeps trying,

whether it is in work, in a hobby or with women,

he's going to get a woman,

sooner or later.

Maybe it happens faster if he's not needy,

but a non-needy guy does not automatically get a girl

on the merit of that alone.

All a man really needs to do is believe he will win.

That makes him keep trying.

Every time he fails, he's closer to the win.

That's part of being a caveman.

A caveman doesn't care if he tried a zillion times.

He just tries to make it happen right then.

A caveman is going to win out over Brad Pitt any day.

Cause if Brad Pitt gets in his head too much,

or does a whole bunch of talking with a girl,

then Brad Pitt goes home alone,

and the caveman keeps trying.

Nobody has a better success rate than a caveman.

Except another caveman.

But the difference is small between two cavemen.

 

Just focus on what you can do today.

 

These are some magic word brih
Appreciate you