I don't want to have sex with her because she is a virgin

You STILL haven't had it? Lol.

 

Lol. I mean it was over a week ago that he seemed to want it. I then thought that he would make a decision.
Seems like a) the topic is a troll, b) he needs other people telling him what to do with his life.
Neither is good

 

I believe it's the latter.
Because imagine taking so long to make such a decision.
I mean there are life decisions that you might want to take weeks to think about (moving house, changing your career etc), but there are also things that you (should) decide in a matter of seconds, such as "should I buy a milk with a blue or green cork".
The thing about having sex with someone falls somewhere in between, but it's closer to the latter than the former.
I mean ffs. Imagine taking people's opinions before deciding if you move on your relationship with someone or not.
It is not like I or anyone else is going to live that relationship for you. And it seems like this is exactly what you want people to do.

You know, the way things stand you probably should just forget that girl because you clearly don't want to do it. If I were you - this is my opinion, the way I would do things, you don't have to - I would tell her I don't want it and leave it at that. Because she is probably hoping that you indeed want it and will soon do something about it.

 

So you think she is the only girl you could ever get on with in bed? It’s not a need it’s just what feels like a need because it’s a really big want. And just sex isn’t a type of love it is lust. It is the feeling that your body can be used to make mine feel good.

 

And as a girl you should be considering my views highly as your actions will be impacting a girl.

 

What a weird line of argument

 

Thank you for sharing your valuable perspective on this issue. Too many guys on this forum commodify women and have no respect for a woman's experience or feelings and only care about their own sexual whims.

 

You want her body, she wants yours, what’s the trouble? Go for it?
You don’t want to land up in a relationship? Why?

 

So relationships nowadays are based on lust instead of love?

 

I don’t know, I’m asking myself.

 

Personally, I think relationships should be based on love. I think one of the motives of NoFap is to eradicate lust. Lust IS a vice and always WILL be a vice. Love is a virtue.

 

you've been clear you only want sex, she knows this and agrees to it. I would say go for it, be nice tho afterwards, don't just pump and dump. You have the chance to make her first time a good time, and it will be something she remembers for life so treat her well.

 

Men don’t get how sex and love are so intertwined for women it seems, especially in the vulnerability of the first time. Even if they don’t say so or don’t think so. I was that girl who thought I could just get rid of it to someone who didn’t care. I was up for it. So glad I didn’t.