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Cutting my dick is the only solution

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Revenant in life, Jul 17, 2020.

  1. Revenant in life

    Revenant in life Fapstronaut

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    All I can think about is sex, but it's so freaking impossible to me finding it, not because I am anxious or something, No, because My country is extremely conservative,
    impossible to find a woman to have sex with even in a romantic relationship, and I can't take it anymore.
    I am 18yo, so now I have to wait until I get married which would take 10 years at least, what the heck!!!!!!, even prostitution is rare and silent in streets...
    I am thinking to immigrate ( which will take me also some time at least 5 years )
    I am on my 61st day of nofap, willing to do more, but because of that fact I can't find sex disturbs me I guess I'll come back to it to the rest of my life or maybe cut my dick ( I am talking for real )...,
    Please what should I do ?...
    one of the solutions I have is to travel 20 days to an African cheap-to-travel country and have sex ( I live in the north Africa ).
    what do you think ?
    if you can suggest to me anything please I am lost, I am begging you guys to help me
     
  2. she-dernatinus

    she-dernatinus Fapstronaut

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    Really dude, cutting your dick isn't the only solution. I live in a similar background too, and even if I feel sometimes this unbearable urge I will not 'cut' any part of my body to deal with it.
    And besides, prostitution is pure human comodification. It is void of connection and empathy, it will not solve your problem to have sex with a prostitute. How would you deal with the aftermath of having exploiting another person as a pure masturbation tool ? Do you think you will be happier or even more miserable ?
    Being in this state doesn't excuse anyone to exploit others, you are addicted and your brain tries to find excuses to get the dopamine rush it has been accomodated to.
    I suggest you calm down first and sort your ideas out. This 'fog' will pass in a few hours, meanwhile try to keep yourself busy with some task.
    Or try to communicate with your family.
     
    Last edited: Jul 17, 2020
  3. she-dernatinus

    she-dernatinus Fapstronaut

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    Also, I think what you need now is healthy human connections. And prostitution doesn't fall into that category.
     
  4. Branchman

    Branchman Fapstronaut

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    I used to think that when i was about 17 years old. I used to think that becauce I thought it was the only solution to stop watching porn and M, and i didn't do it! I haven't entered to a porn site for more than 150 days, I can tell you that you can get rid of this addiction, I don't wish anymore to watch porn. What sometimes i'd like is to have sex, but I am trying to make my mind to believe that lust is not healthy (based on my beliefs). Maybe you think that sex is going to fullfill you but it wont, the last days I had very strong urges to go to see an escort (the quarantine [covid-19] made things really difficult) but I got a temporary job and that has helped me to stop feeling in a bad mood, the urges had reduced in frecuency and intensity.
    A guy here from Nofap wrote "marriage gives you acces to sex, not permission".

    Do you really want to discover sex with a sex worker? Who doesn't knows you, who is giving you her body because you're paying her. I also believe as "she-dernatinus" that what you need is human connection, it feels great when you feel a connection with somebody (man or woman) and when you have physical contact with somebody, the feeling afterwards is kind of peacefull, fullfill, not having urges; in part that is because of oxytocin, a neurtransmiter that is released when we have physical contact, wich is not released in masturbation. I see it as a long term hapiness chemical, in contrast with dopamine, wich is a short term pleasure. But even if you don't have too much physical contact, talking with a friend or familiar or somebody whom you like to be can give you this feeling of peace. Why don't you talk to God (Jesus-Christ)? Even He said that it is not good for manhood to be alone.
     
    Last edited: Jul 18, 2020
  5. whiteflag70

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    Hell, at 18 the hormones could be raging and all. In truth, I shouldn't be saying this but imo it isn't masturbation per se that's bad but high speed Internet porn + masturbation.

    Please don't flame me but I think it's better for OP to jack off (without porn) and relieve his tension. Maybe limit your masturbation sessions to 20 days once. Shouldn't be a problem if u can do 60 days of NoFap. think its better than travelling 20 days for sex or cutting ur dick off, which is worse.

    Praying and all is great but some teenagers are so horny and highly sexed they will go crazy if they don't bust a nut once in awhile. Just don't use porn.
     
  6. thinking_differently

    thinking_differently Fapstronaut

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    Yo man! Slow down.
    Now do as I say:
    Sit down on the floor, Cross your legs.
    Close your eyes and breathe, breathe as you feel relaxing.
    Now let the thoughts come to your mind. But as soon as they come, don’t entertain them. Try to have a blank mind. Keep doing this with great devotion and truthfully.
    Tell us how you feel.
     
  7. What on earth is going on here.
     
  8. I just read the title and thought the same
     
  9. Your age is not an excuse for that bullshit.
     
  10. greatchinaski

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  11. If you live in such area that's great !

    Worldwide hookup culture seems to get really popular, but it brings a lot of negative effects with it and it won't promise you the happiness and peace of mind you're looking for. If you live in a place where there's a lot of emphasis put on marriage and traditional values, this means you'll be able to find a good woman who'll be your companion and compliment to your life journey.

    Finding someone to fill up your selfish needs is not an answer, you'll just spin in circle over and over again. PS - don't chop your pp off
     
  12. Envoy-ofthe-End

    Envoy-ofthe-End Fapstronaut

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    Technically you would just have to cut your balls off and you´d be an eunuch (the Kings had those men in the palace). But to be fair, I understand your frustruation but having sex won´t alleviate the problem, it´ll make it worse. When I have sex I want more, and more and more... So keep your NoFap streak up and put that energy to better use.
     
  13. TimeToQuitNow

    TimeToQuitNow Fapstronaut

    No it isn't. Plus it probably won't stop you from thinking about sex. Just relax and be patient. Also why would it take you 10 years to get married?
     
  14. This guy was last online at July 2020 and it has been 12 days since he left. I'm really worried. Nobody stays offline for so many days right after creating a thread. It just doesnt make any sense. I just pray to god that nothing has happened to him :(
     
  15. People do a lot of silly things. However, in all probability he is safe and back to his normal ways.
     
  16. I can understand this guy because we are very similar. He must've been through some really hard times. But I wouldn't call him silly. He has simply lost his way. And if he comes back I will do anything to help him out because I can understand his pain. I've been through similar stuff as him.
     
  17. Well, I didn't call "him" silly. And it's mighty noble of you to have such fine thoughts. Good luck for your journey in life.
     
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  18. Good luck pal. And you've already made it through 500 days and thats my goal.
     
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  19. LoveIsAllWeNeed

    LoveIsAllWeNeed Fapstronaut

    This is THE problem. You've let your mind take over. Take back control and be the master of your mind. Many at this forum have done it, I myself have done it, all it takes is daily practice and learn to separate yourself from your mind. You don't need sex, you don't even need a wife, you need to find yourself!
     
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  20. TimeToQuitNow

    TimeToQuitNow Fapstronaut

    I think a lot of people do that actually. But yea I am worried about him too. Hope he didn't go through with it
     

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