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One Way to Decrease Loneliness

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by LOSEmyselftoSAVEmyself, Aug 2, 2020.

  1. A lot of you guys know me, probably you think I'm an idiot.

    Well, you are right.

    But I aint hatin. So, here is my suggestion.

    This is my opinion about how I became less lonely.

    I believe that Social Media increases loneliness.

    I know that society thinks that social media is important, but I had to ditch it.

    If you find me on social media, you are looking at a relic.

    The problem I had was that I would end up alone on certain nights,

    so I'd open social media to find someone to talk to.

    Sometimes they were there.

    Sometimes they weren't.

    Sometimes they cared.

    Sometimes they didn't.

    But the problem is that if I looked to OTHER PEOPLE

    to solve my emotional problems,

    I only made them worse.

    Every time I had that feeling like, I wonder if I can reach out to

    ___(person)____

    then I only felt more lonely.

    Then it got to where the loneliness just did not ever go away.

    It seemed to be connected to using social media,

    but I couldn't understand it.

    Still I don't know why this happens.

    But if I just live my life, and work on what I need to accomplish,

    then I'm ok, I'm not lonely.

    If I go to social media and try to engage there,

    then I end up more lonely than if

    I'd never gone to social media.

    What I believe is that if a NoFap guy works on their life's goal or goals,

    the loneliness goes away.

    But if the NoFap guy hangs around on social media,

    chases women,

    worries about hanging around with buddies all the time,

    then he's going to be lonely.

    You can be either alone or lonely, it is your choice.

    I personally saw my loneliness go to nearly zero when I ditched social media.

    I deleted the apps from my phone, deleted the bookmarks on my computer,

    and I don't go there.

    What fills it up is my own life.

    Instead of social media, I am present, wherever I am.

    I don't NEED likes or comments on posts.

    I don't NEED anything but what the present environment offers.

    I don't NEED to watch TV or movies, sometimes I do, but usually I do not.

    I can be content to the max by just BEING.

    It is enough if you allow it to be enough.

    Or, you can worry about sending a "like" to Kim Kardashian

    when she tries on a new dress.

    What sounds like a better use of your life?

    You only get one life, you know.

    Better to be in YOUR life, now, than somewhere else.

    You can be happy in YOUR life right now, if you decide.

    If you decide that you are not happy without social media,

    then you won't be.

    If you ditch social media, you might need a week to get used to the change.

    Then, when you hear people talk about "text-whatever" or "post-something"

    it sounds like stupid alien garble.

    And that is good, because that is what that stuff really is.

    Now you are closer to sanity.

    So prepare to be different.

    Cause being like everyone else is not the way to winning.
     
  2. I mean, not to diminish the value of your advice, but isn't this a commonly held opinion on the nofap community any way?
     
  3. I don't know. I hope so.
     
  4. It's solid advice, dw.
     
  5. magic05

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    Don't forget online news. I'd say that's even worse than social media.

    Cutting down on all the daily endless negativity and useless information is one of the best things somebody can do in the digital 21st century. Read one good book and you have more value and content than 1 year of daily news consumption.
     
  6. Yes, I didn't mention that, but I don't follow the news.

    Watching the news is too much work, for a smart person.

    There's too much bad information there.

    And what is the gain from all that filtering? Zero.
     
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  7. livebytruths

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    I removed myself from social media a while back. One of my daily goal's is to not access it and look at other profiles and avoid the news, especially now with COVID 19 So far I am doing good but there are times when I will sneak in a view or two....

    I agree with you man. Social media does make one feel more lonely. The comparing of one's life to another can bring you down.
     
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  8. Gladiator1903

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    In your case its right but if social media could be used in the right way you will face no problems
    The only problem with you was you didn't have anyone to share your feelings and you became dependent on social media that's it
     
  9. Hi all,
    due to the lack of practice and interest the art of archery died out in Europe. It had to be learnt from scratch again in the late 1800s. Roman concrete was much stronger than its modern day counterpart. Yet the knowledge of how to make it was lost forever. In the modern World there is a plethora of ways to communicate. Yet the art of conversation and listening, which are really the same thing, is being lost!
    When the World's most powerful man is a vulgar and dirty old man is there any hope? I believe that there is! But, we must make a concerted effort. Trump is not the cause of the current lack of morality. He is a symptom. He used social media to get elected. But there are no fact checkers for Twitter etc. Anarchy reigns, anyone with internet access can spiel hate and disinformation.

    As for the entertainment industry, it is without decency. Money is God and the most outrageous views sell. Feminazis preach that women deserve respect, which they do, yet dress in a way no self respecting prostitute would. All this means frankly that the patients have taken over the asylum.

    In all this visual and sound pollution PMO thrives. We fapstronauts must exercise self restraint and discernment. It is our only means and hope. Modern society and commercial interests will not do it for us!

    Good luck everyone!
     
  10. Yes that was part of the problem.

    Or so I thought. But then, when I quit s.m., the loneliness was gone too.

    Maybe it's more about the expectation.

    Because I've spent a lot of time in an isolated fashion.

    And I just accept it, it never surprises me if I'm alone.

    I just focus on the day's goals, and move ahead.

    But on s.m. people are so random and unreliable.

    They have that right, don't get me wrong.

    But I had the illusion that things would be different,

    it was a bad expectation on my part.

    And I can't use s.m. without that expectation.

    So to rephrase it, I am less lonely without s.m.
     
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  11. Gladiator1903

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    Try going for events like airsoft battles or football matches or anything available to you it may decrease the feeling of your loneliness
     
  12. Well, I was trying to explain I really wasn't...
     
  13. Bethelightinmyheart

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    If in rebot: social media definitely makes road to relapse closer unless you do it very disciplined: block and remove former sexting girls and this sort of easy women. I find it hard today not to make it sexual at some point with women since I never keep them as friend or try to make them friends in the first place. Just do not feel that comfortable with women yet to open up...
     
  14. I meant to mention that I'm no longer on s.m.

    I released a new song, and I told the provider I promote through s.m.

    It was a sheer lie.

    I haven't been on since February 2020.

    I don't know what's there now.

    I only visited Twitter a few times, but since the first id was stupid,

    I set up a new one. I don't even think I went more than 2-3 times total.

    I was active on the fb but, it seemed to be the source of the problem.

    That was the one where I actually deleted everything.

    They sent me some kind of email about it, I deleted that too.

    I was on the IG for a while, but by late January, i was full on obsessed.

    I was glad to escape that one too.

    Those three were it. Now zero, which is way better.
     
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  15. Bemybest

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    I too decided to ditch social media and OTT apps as well yesterday. I know that it will be really tough the first week. Thatcis why I need the support.
    Yesterday, it was so tough to keep up with my thoughts and urges. I couldnt seem to even be with myself for 5 minutes without my phone.
    Not even 5 FUKIN Minutes!!!

    I will make myself a better person rather than a phone ADDICT.
     
  16. Gladiator1903

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    The city I live in is under quarantine and the only way for me to interact with others is through my mobile and I installed blockers which won't let me open them for more than 10 min every one hour
     
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  17. Yeah, and if you stay the course, you will wonder why you ever were on s.m.

    You'll do it.
     
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  18. Gladiator1903

    Gladiator1903 Fapstronaut

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    Guys I've got a video for this topic
     

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