My GF broke up with me, and I feel betrayed, although I am not better

Hi Jonny1992

I don't know what's more painful
lovesickness or kidney stones
On a scale of 1 - 10, I would both rate 8 - 9.

But pain doesn't last forever, it will pass, even though it doesn't feel like that yet.

What's really painful are the images, the memories in your head, and the fear of the future.
I bet you have a roof over your head, enough food, and a warm bed to sleep in.
Meditate, focus on your breath, or your feelings.
As long as you stay in and accept the present moment there is nothing to worry about.
(important: Not the images in your head, only the experience of the breath or the feelings)
Do this over and over again and your perspective will gradually change to a more optimistic mindset.

Maybe you were successful in making her feeling comfortable and loved but the task to make someone other than yourself truly happy is impossible. This just shows that you failed to do something which was doomed from the first.

Reading your text it seems to me that you cared more for her than for yourself and lifted her on a pedestal.

Could it be that you think exactly that of yourself?

Change your attitude man, from victim to alpha.
You are the most important person in your life because you will be always together with yourself from birth until you die. So learn to care first for yourself.
You are the sun in your universe and girls are just circling around you to make your life better.

All the best

mountaintop

 

if theres something wrong with a guy that is ok with girlfriend ,females have a fix it, nurture nature they want to fix heal that in him, but when you started bringing up "I cared for her, I helped her, I made her presents, I wrote her cards, I always kissed her softly. She did not liked her nose, so I always kissed her nose and said that i love her the way she is.where I wanted to change for good, so I can make her happy, feel comfort and be happy and loved" it may sound like the thing to do but we are brain washed to do that due to media, romantic movies, P films brain washed us, romance movies, romantic holidays brainwashed us, we gotta get out of that mind set. you are idolizing her as if she is a higher existence then yourself, yesh be intimate with her but dont be needy, relationships is a alliance to experince life with , share life with, if you just give give give more then she gives you well make her boat heavy an she well sink away from you, gotta keep it even, she does one thing for you,you do one thing for her , you do one thing wait for her to do one thing,an hold strong in being the person you are ,if you are personally changing things in your life to be a better person stick to those goals, but dont change some thing cause you feel it well make her love you , dont change something in you if she demands something changed in you, cause if you change to much you become someone new an you wont be that person she fell in love with no more cause you changed to much, thats how people fall out of love they change to much

 

So first of all don't feel bad for this breakup. Now you can see how evil those kind of woman are.
I had already a bad feeling as I have heard that she is taller than you and you thought she could love her. There is no chance that a taller girl ever loves a shorter guy. This is an undeniable fact. And please dont come up with celebraties like men who are shorter in a relationship and had a taller wife or girlfriend.
They have the big money and they are famous and you are definetly not, (if you are not a wealthy business men)!!!! She didn't loved her in the first place. She is that kind of woman who needs fast a relationship for not being lonely-you are her relationship holder until she found a better guy. It doesn't have to do with your porn addiction if you didn't forced her for any kind of sexual acts to please yourself. I find that sweet somehow that you kissed her nose, but it seems like she has alot of complexes. You will hate me now, but my very good advice to you is forget her! She never felt the same like you do. If you never used violence or didn't argued so much with each other there is simply no reason why to leave you. Believe me you are more worth than any kind of woman on this planet. Your porn addiction doesn't have to do anything how you treat people. You can still be a kind guy and treat people well and still have an addiction. It could be that you have a wrong assumption about porn addiction. One advice to you: Dont be too nice to woman, otherwise they will never give you respect. If you are too soft they begin to hate those men somehow. What I found out is that woman alot of times disagree with their own statements they made and they have ulterior motives to be with you. Are you a good paid men? A healthy men? Do you ride a supercar? Do you have alot of muscles? She never liked you but the image you are reflecting is something they fell in love. There is no real love on planet earth. Thats why I hate this world more and more. I hate materialistic, superficial people who dont seek for inner values. She just wants sex from you. Thats a big mistake to start with sex when you dont know the person any better or never asked her questions. You both definetly not talked enough together but who cares if her motives are shitty.

 

so to summarize: she left him because he was manlet?

 

yes and no! She left him because he couldn't obviously offer some things she wants to have, whatever the reason is it could not be any intention of love. Its not his fault at all. But it was also crystal clear that she will leave him after I have heard he is much shorter than she is.

 

Hey dude try not to let women get to affect how you think of yourself.

Be your own man and if the women your with doesn't like it the tell her to hit the bricks.

Honestly women aren't special enough to make me hate myself. Stay confident be yourself and I guarantee a women will have respect for you. If a women doesn't have respect for you then your toast.

 

that true man,plus I bet OP being a bit delusional saying she was so beautiful and all that when in first place if she was that beautiful and special would ve gone with the typical jock or some dude that had those features she wanted,maybe she was average at best and needed someone to reinforce her ego,so sad op invested too much in this relationship r.i.p

 

It's the schooling and guidance that's causing these problems unfortunately. Most people don't have father in their lives now so the only dating advice some men get is treat her like an angel and agree to everything she says.

Unfortunately for many men that stuff doesn't work K am not saying be a complete dick but you need to be confident and assertive.

Treating women like they're Angel's unfortunately won't get you anywhere.

Eventually that will rub off quick and they'll dump your ass.

Oh well the OP will get over it I just hope he learns.

 

What I am saying is if you keep letting a women walk all over you she will lose her respect for you. Usually when this happens they will either cheat on you or just brake up with you.

Women for the most part don't like nice guys, but the problem is the mainstream media have taught men to act like this so what ends up happening is a lot of men start to feel down on themselves because they think they are not good enough for women which isn't true.

That's why I said who cars what a women thinks about you be your own man and if they don't like that tell them to go fuck themselves. Women are not angels they are human just like us so stop treating them like that and treat them like you would treat any other man. That's what women want.

 

A good movie on how to treat women is Clark Gable in It Happened One Night.

 

just to let you know my ex who im not with no more left me, i was a similar guy to who you described but i feel i changed for me since then an love who iam today an learnt alot but i also ddont know what a manlet is, lol sounds very insulting

 

Are you a troll?

 

I've never been in a relationship but I've seen many, and I kinda know how you feel.

I have just few words for you,

You did your best and you can still do better. Let the example of this relationship fuel you to quit PMO for ever. Use the time you gain to start exercising and improving yourself, It might feel hard to do at first but you can do it.

Good luck.
Stay strong.

We know you can do it.

 

Strongly recommend you to educate yourself on man-woman relationship.
YouTube channels like Develop attraction:
https://m.youtube.com/channel/UCCgGlPGDME05HjA2nV30qhw
Darius M: https://m.youtube.com/user/lastsecshot

Books like No more mr. Nice guy
Good luck!