Strategies with Urges

I think realizing that the urge is a temporary feeling and that you don't want to indulge it is important. It may seem obvious, but for me personally when urges hit sometimes I feel as if there is a part of me that wants it to overwhelm me to give me an excuse to relapse, so it tries to prolong the feeling of the urge as long as possible and make it seem stronger than it is so that can happen.

As far as actual actions, listening to music, going outside, doing some deadhanging, and wim hof breathing help me.

 

Honestly, tips like ''stop drinking coffee you'll get rid of urges'' are bullshit. Urges are always in our mind, it all depends of the way we confront them. Write down your thoughts and what you feel after you relapse so that next time you will be aware of what pmo did to you. Even better, you should write down your thoughts and feeling during the day, somehow you're gonna find your goal.

 

An urge is a feeling. According to some cognitive behavioral therapy our feelings are a result of our thinking.

If you want to control your urges, which you can do, you need to understand how your thinking contributes to the urges you are experiencing.

Waiting until the urge hits is like suiting up for battle when the enemy is already striking. You have to have your battle suit on all the time.

I don’t get urges anymore. I get triggered. I remember. But I don’t get urges. I have been able to accomplish this by really owning how I think and changing any wrong thinking that exists.

This takes time, effort, and for me, professional help. It has been the greatest thing I have ever done and has contributed to an increase of joy in every aspect of my life.

In the meantime, there are things you can do. I used to carry around a list of the character traits that I wanted to posses, phrases that defined the man I wanted to be. I laminated it and carried it around with me. In the beginning I had a timer on my phone and read it every hour I was awake. Then I slowly lessened the frequency over time. I don’t need it anymore.

You could put a ring on a finger You don’t generally wear a ring on. That physical reminder was enough for me at times to stop my wrong thinking. These aren’t solutions, just temporary things you can do to help in a moment of crises while you get this figured out.

 

I agree urges are feelings.
This affliction is in my opinion the denial of feeling , I am at the stage of allowing feeling to surface which is resulting in urges arising .
I am practicing seeing the urges as an opportunity to acknowledge the underlying feelings . I have masked my feelings with masterbating for as long as I can remember.
It is such an uncomfortable practice to be honest . I live in hope that my heart will grow

 

First, you must busy yourself with something non-digital and offline during idle time. No screens, phones or computers. If you must, then disable internet during times when you are most vulnerable.

Second, do preventative things to distract your mind in preparation for idle time: physicality and intellectuality. Training, sports, lifting, reading, studying, etc. And you should be social, as much as possible. Spend time with family. Never be alone during idle time, or minimize it.

I've written a few posts with my best advice from interacting with guys on the forum that you may find helpful.

My #1 Tip: Change Your Environment https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/my-1-tip-change-your-environment.288435/

How To Use Devices In a Healthy Way https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/how-to-use-devices-in-a-healthy-way.290017/

PMO Has No Power Over You https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/pmo-has-no-power-over-you.290204/

 

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Hey man I can tell you a secret about coffee. Nobody knows what's really behind the drug.
MY discovery is: any fire based substance elementally fire... That is it increases heat in you will make you hornier.

Methamphetamine mega horny. Alcohol horny caffeine horny! I noticed how bad caffeine plus nofap is man. It's a stimulant like meth. Society is just retard.

If u guys wanna stop PMO consider quitting stimulant a too. I can tell u in gym coffee+ hot girls make me PMO can't control. Lol... Picking up babes and staring at their asses and vaginas like a dog. Hahaha.

Umm yeah. Thermogenic is synonymous with hornyness. Cut the coffee bro

 

It sounds to me like you have a really good handle on this. Remember the reasons why you started and hold onto the hope you had in the beginning. You have everything you need to succeed.

 

i am completely with you on that. i have long restraited my urges by getting down to schoolwork or doing exercise but it helps temporarily. once the pent-up sexual desires reach the point at which you feel that it overwhelms you. you will release it no matter what But the so-called overwhelming state is not physical alone,the underlying feelings that we deny for some reason are also at play. i don't know the underlying feelings are exactly,ambiguous speaking, they are probably lonliness, insufficient confidence,or a lack of sense of achivement or the likes. i think i have become an escaplist who seeks for momentary pleasure and get rid of all the negtive thoughts over and over again by masturbating. i am in a dilemma of allowing thoughts to surface naturally or stemming them immediately. still long way to find the solutions.....