The START 2021 STRONGER Challenge [CLOSED]

Hey All!

Many of us are between the 7-14 day part of our reboot. This is traditionally the most difficult time for people as our body reacts to a spike in testosterone and a lack of dopamine. Let's remain focused on our goals and do what ever it takes to get through this period and into smoother waters. Here's a short video on this period and some strategies for success. His channel has other helpful content as well so check it out.

 

Me too
I am already on day 39!!

 

@MountainSea - Thanks for the information about the 7 and 14 day milestones. I tracked back my journal and those dates are weak points for me and I've relapsed during a few of those periods. It's great to be forewarned with that awareness. Just so happens I've been going through a rough patch these last few days. Days 13 -15.

 

My wife and daughter left again so I am home alone. My plan: after my online meeting, I will go out for a 45 minute walk. By the time I get back, they should have returned.

 

First time commenting on a nofap thread.
Just fucked up and broke a 3 week streak.
Looks like i just made the deadline for this challenge.
Count me in.

 

Day 3 - 30th September 2020

Spent the last 2 days organising my school schedule for the coming two years and finally feel like I know where i'm headed and see myself in the coming years. Regarding porn, i havent had much urges but just today while studying i was thinking back on some seen and how wonderful the scene was for a moment, but continued studying. Just need to continue fighting this, and hopefully there comes one day that these thoughts dont affect me.

 

Browsing here you will see many wishing for self-dicipline so they can stay away from porn but how can you succeed in something if you dont have the self confidence? Today I had a flashback of a porn scene which I liked and thought to myself that I wont succeed on this no porn journey because in no way could I go on, atleast not forever without watching that scene again. Many have those thought, and that lack of confidence there is what leads to the lack of self discipline and relapse.

 

Day 5

 

Day 1.

I really, really, really want to do this, and be successful. So tired of starting over. A little piece of me gets torn off everytime I have to start over.

I just joined NoFap yesterday, because I no longer trust myself, and cannot do this alone. My plans of what I can do, can’t do, moderate, etc. have utterly failed...I am throwing the towel in, and surrendering to a full reset.

I would be lieing if I said I wasn’t scared, especially scared of the withdrawls, but this is the most important thing in my life right now and takes the highest priority.

Feeling hopeful to do this challenge with a community that supports each other.

I suppose one day at a time.

 

59 days

 

I start the month at day 75, onto 2021 we go, one day at a time.

 

Having been through this process successfully before, I found desperation as the reason I had self discipline. My life was a mess. I’d just dropped out of a full-on University course, had no money, no energy, living with my parents, and PMOing three times a day minimum. I found NoFap, saw some of the testimonies of change seen in those who were successful, and realised I had nothing left to lose. The self confidence came as I stopped flooding my brain with pleasure chemicals and I realised I had the self discipline to do this.

This time feels a little different - my PMO wasn’t as heavy, but it had returned, and things were not going right in life. I was definitely not filled with self confidence, but the drive to self discipline comes from wanting to make change and do my family proud. The self discipline comes from not wanting to go back to the life I was living. And the self confidence is slowly coming back, as I’m proving to myself that I can do this.

In other news, today is my Day 34. This might be my longest time PMO free in almost two years. I didn’t realise how bad I had gotten!

 

I had relapsed day before yesterday, Now I am on Day 2 of the streak, Hoping the month of October will go well for me.

 

I am checking IN!
I am really proud of myself that I helped my team go getters win the september challenge. It was great motivation and you guys should check out the october challenge by primaris.

I must say its not getting any easier. I think I still make one big mistake. From time to time I do some tiny edging and after that the next couple of hours is just pure battle. I have to avoid edging -> thats my ultimate goal. Even when its like 10sec. And also must manage my fantasies better so they wont get over my head.