PMO once a week vs no PMO at all

The NoFap coomunity says u should try to hold out without PMO for as long as possible, preferrably infinitely. That's very simple strategy, but is it really the best? In my opinion not. I tried countless times to do so, but without success. I also spent many hours on reading scientiffic articles about PMO and here are the conclusions:

Everyone here says that PMO is pure evil, but there are some positive effects of masurbation if u do it sensibly. These are some biological benefits that we can't deny, even though the negative effects of excessive masturbation outweigh these positives of casual masutbation completely. Here they are copied from an article:
- Toxins build up naturally in the urogenital tract. Men who ejaculate decrease these toxin levels.
- When men ejaculate, a little cortisol gets released, which is the stress hormone. This boosts their immune system
- Masturbation can release stress and tension from the body by flooding the system with endorphins. Endorphins trigger a positive feeling in the body and can lead to sound sleep.
- Masturbating releases feel-good neurochemicals like dopamine and oxytocin (it's good as long as u don't get addicted to high dopamine levels)

After a thorough research I found that the optimal frequency of masturbation for men is exactly once a week. If u do it more often, then u may lose some fo your energy, motivation, creativity, social-confidence, etc. If u do it less frequently, u won't fully benefit from the positive effects of masturbation mentioned above. There are 3 sources that I found this information from:
- A research from China 2003 has shown that the men's testosterone level peaks after 7 days of abstaining from masturbation, then decreases. it means that if u masturbate exactly once a week, u will have the highest testosterone level possible and therefore u will perform better at sports, will have higher libido and be better with women, but will also be more aggressive.
- John Gray, one of the most famous and respected relationship counselors and authotrs all-time has written it in his book 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus'. He actually meant ejaculation after a sex with a real woman, but it does apply to masturbation too.
- David Aspray wrote the same in his book 'Game Changers', based on a comprehensive research.

I'm on a 8 weeks streak of masturbating to porn exactly once a week and I feel happy with it. I went from masturbating 1-2 times a day, with some succesful and unsuccesful no-PMO-challenges in between, to once a week with control over it. I encourage you to try that too. As there are 30-, 60-, and 90-days no-PMO-challenges that NoFap cultivates, u can, instead, try 4-,8- and 13-weeks PMO-once-a-week challenges. They are much easier and u won't feel so much pressure.

 

I think, if my ultimate goal is to masturbate no more than once a week, then it's better to set this goal right away, without trying prolonged periods (for example 90 days) of no-PMO before. For most, 90 days of no-PMO is a mission impossible anyway. I once succeeded over a 30-days challenge just to do PMO 4 times on the day after that and then returned to my old habits. Now, when I consistently do PMO once a week, I see some real progress and control over it. I went directly from PMO 1-2 times a day to once a week.

The main point of my post was that ejaculating once in a week is best from the biological point of view, no matter if it's masturbation to porn, masturbation without porn or sex with a girlfriend. Psycholagically, the 3rd option is the best and the 1st the worst, but biologically it doesnt't matter. By ejaculating once a week u can keep the best balance of hormones in your body.

I actually do other things for self-development and set goals in other areas of life. Masturbating once a week helps me to achieve these goals. When masturbating excessively I cannot achieve any goals, because of lack of energy and motivation. When not masturbating at all, I am able to achieve these goals, but I feel like something is missing and feel kind of unhappy that I can't satisfy my sexual demands at all.

Actually, in past, some people got still addicted to masturbation. It was called 'onanism' then. Of course it was of incomparable extent to now. Nowadays, we are bombarded with sexual content from everywhere, not only from porn sites and it's hard to avoid it. So, instead of trying to avoid it, I think it's better to control it; be aware of our thoughts and processes in our brains while facing sexual content.

I personally masturbate to porn once a week and I see no problem with that. I don't think it makes a difference, whether u masturbate in front of a PC-screen; in the toilet fantasizing about porn or p-subs, or masturbating mechanically without fantasizing. As long as I don't exceed my limit of 1 ejaculation pro week, I don't care what kind of ejaculation it was. I can even watch porn without masturbating after that and it's still not a relapse to me. I know that some don't like such rules, but for me they work good and I'm gonna stick to them. I tried 9 years to quit porn, tried many different approaches and finally found something that works and just wanted to share this with you.

Who is actual addict and who is not is kind of relative. There are some who say that you either are addicted or not and there are some, including me, who believe that u can be lightly, moderately or heavily addicted. People often don't know, what kind of goals they should set in the sexual health area and I think that in most cases, PMO once a week is a better and easier goal than trying to abstain from PMO infintely.

That's right. That's why it is important to set other goals in life after reducing PMO, because playing video games, watching TV or laying in bed doing nothing for the whole day, just to avoid PMO, is not ideal.

As I said: 'A research from China 2003 has shown that the men's testosterone level peaks after 7 days of abstaining from masturbation, then decreases. it means that if u masturbate exactly once a week, u will have the highest testosterone level possible and therefore u will perform better at sports'. I also go to gym 2-3 times a week and masturbating once a week definitely doesn't have a negative effect on it. The opposite is true, as long as i do it after training and not before it.