Crying too much when lonely

By the way big congratulations on 600+ days that is wonderful something to very happy about

 

I'm glad you're here friend, we are experiencing freedom. This can work indefinitely, a practice of real love for others and self with acceptance of unskillfulness. These things for in the face of that voice inside that talks about badness all the time. May the success you are experiencing shine out to the people around you, it is the most fun way to not use pm+ is to pass the benefits we experience from it to the people around us

 

With Christ your never alone

 

We are social animals, if you remove every fake stimulae, and you are isolated, due to covid or any other reason that doesn't allow to share any social bond with anyone, sure you are going to feel terrible, and crying is your way of dealing with such pain, nothing wrong with it, as you said, even having a small conversation here makes you feel slightly better, you are just craving social interaction, you don't want to feel like you live in a self-isolated cell, is nothing wrong with you, you are human.

 

Congratulations on your remarkable NoFap journey. Nearly 700 days is amazing. I would argue that crying is a good thing. It means you are feeling. You are healing. You are discovering what makes you, you. Youtube and social media sites are a massive time drain. Yes, best to eliminate them from your life. I'm sorry you feel lonely though. Your recovery is an inspiration to me. Thank you for sharing your story here.

 

This is the key!! Self rejection is the cause of all addictions at the deepest level. Trying to get away from this painful feelings is what we try to do, however this only brings more pain.

@Kashif_khan_mohammadzai
Being lonely or being alone are two entirely different things. Self rejection is what makes us feel lonely, if we are our own best friend, we may be alone but never feel lonely.
Loving yourself means stopping the little voice that punishes you when you do something wrong (or anyone else which is in essence the same). It requires you to become aware of your thoughts and focus on your feelings. If you're feeling bad, probably your little voice has been punishing you. Do some mindfulness or meditation and you'll quickly learn how to apply this in your daily life. This is essential to recovering from any addiction or bad habit.

 

goldmine advice. thank you

And @Kashif_khan_mohammadzai congrats on the long streak bro, glad to see you are going strong still. It is normal to cry a lot, as nofap brings out the emotions much stronger, but try to do some sports or pick up some hobbies that involve others. I started dance lessons recently. Hope things get better for you

 

If you are feeling bored, I would suggest lunchclub.ai to meet new people - they are free and have meetings daily with random people from around the world with similar interests or goals to you. I found this site helpful to meet people during the lockdown, and I don't have any real friends.

 

683 days that's almost 2 years it's a big achievement , my record was only 150 days . you are a believer i know and probably that's the most thing that helped you to abstain.
so most likely what makes you cry when you are alone is your sins and you do regret what you have done in the past. i can tell you , you are lucky you must be glad you got rid of the pmo and god forgives everything except if you don't believe on him so if you feel alone go to run outside , or go to the gym , or go to the mosque and read coran if you can .
so if crying for your old sins i understand that , but don't worry you did prove your regret so hopefuly god forgives you and forgives me too...

 

What’s up gents , I just wanted to share something out of my chest, I’m trying to recover from PMO, it’s a journey not easy as I’m finding out personally and when ur married it gets tough because u suffer because u want to do it alone and she suffers because because u can’t do it to her, I always chose the easy way of doing it myself Coz it was easy and I was unfortunately programmed to follow that path as well.

I hope we all recover and achieve the potential we have because one thing PMO has taken from me is valuable time and now I got limited time to get everything right , my life , my wife , career.

Looking for a community man where we can share and help anonymously , would prefer instant communication due to instant urges so to speak , that lethargy and anxiety, u just don’t have the energy to fire up the laptop.

I think we should create a group some app or so where we can help each other anonymously with ground rules. I would choose WhatsApp or telegram.

what do u say ppl.

 

hi kashif..do you remember me? hope u're doing well

 

Crying is a good thing because it helps the urges go away, so if you want to cry like a baby, have at it. Also, helps you to be sleepy.