What’s the deal with just normal (no porn) maturation post 100 days..?

My personal experience has taught me that I shouldn't even think about it. Since it is a heavy artificial thing, after some tries (of quitting) I just didn't wanted to do it anymore because my mind, body and will realized that it was a bad thing altogether in my life. However that kind of stimulant is more easily avoided that your own penis.

If you're here it means that you took it seriously enough and you are probably prone to get hooked and to get negative results. So I would say avoid any conscious attempt to get back to it. About M itself, I think moderation and good practice of it won't harm you. It is still a heavy stimulant thing and you would be better spending that time doing something else, but if it doesn't cut something else from your life you'll be fine. As simple as that.

 

probably loll

 

I'd say if you stay away from the MO... you stay away from the brain fog!

 

Give it a try. I recommend not to use porn substitutes. That means movie scenes, pictures of girl or anything that activates the same pathways as porn did. Try using your imagination or better yet, nothing at all. Just focus on the sensation and see what happens. Make a new pathway that doesn't involve porn. If you feel like you are having a relapse stop it and give it another 2-3 months masturbation and porn free, then try it again.

 

Not sure about “guided masturbation videos” but I think mindful masturbation may be an option. By that I mean masturbating with no fantasizing, being present and focused on the physical feeling.

personally, I’d rather not beat the meat at all. Use that energy to get a partner.

 

Masturbating to fantasy, in my opinion, is that same as masturbating to pornography. It will produce the same effect on the mind. It will feed the part of you that craves pornography. There is a link in your mind that connects P and M. Doing one will ignite the desire for the other.

Why do we think masturbation is okay? I haven't masturbated in many years. I have energy, I am in shape, I work hard, I have multiple healthy relationships, I sleep well. I am WAY healthier than when I used to engage in PM.

I believe that men are taught that we are entitled to sexual release from a young age. We assume that it is true and we make choices accordingly. I recently went a year with no PMO. It was the healthiest year of my life.

My advise: challenge the entitlement that makes you believe that M is a good thing. Then come up with your own conclusion.

 

Good point. I mean most men and women probably do it as teenagers since we’re discovering sex and our hormones are raging. But do we need to do it past that?

I think for some of us, no M is the way to go. Not sure I trust myself to masturbate in a healthy way that wouldn’t lead to fantasizing/porn.

obviously our heads won’t explode (pun intended) and apparently we can function at 100% w/o it.

 

Dude, if you're gonna M, do it on your own. Don't use any external tools; nothing but your two hands. Anything that goes beyond the natural wank it till you make it might be potentially triggering or escalating.

If you want to M because you feel like you truly want, go for it. But after 114 days without it, you have to ask yourself... do you really want it? If you lived without it for 114 days, why not 115?

 

So you'd rather go back to pmo (with p substitutes, however your brain chooses to trick you) than find a woman to have a relationship with, and actually live a normal life without an addiction? You don't see anything wrong with that?