Rebooting in a Marriage , Please Help!!

I don't resent my wife for trivial matters. Last time , when she said she supported me but the very next day she involved my parents and other relatives. I was terribly disturbed and hurt . I felt like I've bee punished for the same mistake over and over again. I am trying to fix our relationship which she has been explained about.For the first 90 days , I'm completely focusing on building emotional intimacy while refraining from every sort of sexual stimulation or arousal , which she has been explained clearly. And suddenly this happens ( parents involved). This made me feel it was not worth it , but then I didn't give up on this nofap journey.

Coming back to your second question. I don't believe I'm using no-sex to punish my wife but only in a hope that this will help fix my DE and develop sexual intimacy with her. The sexual attraction or intimacy , whatever we call it , is not as strong with her as I used to have before. You could say that , when we are in bed , I feel a very low libido. It was never like this before . Before I started this nofap journey , we did try to have sex couple of times. In one occasion , it was okay. But most of the times , I failed to achieve erection especially during penetration which left me and my wife frustrated. Following those incidents , I felt I'd fail again and leave both of us frustrated. As a result , I avoided getting sexual unless I fix myself. Moreover , every time I lost my erection , she would have mood swings and would not talk to me for days instead of communicating with me and help me work on it . We still cuddle , hug , kiss as a way of showing affection to her. But I'm scared she might have mood swings again before I reach my 90 days target.

I'm hoping this hard-mode for 90 days helps me fix this . One thing still bugs me , why do I not feel strong sexual desire for her like how I used to feel before we started to fight ?? I'm a man with good enough sex drive and I'm completely normal physically. But , for the past 1 year I haven't felt the same intensity of sexual desire for her as before.