New & Want Perspective On My Story

Hello, I'm new to NoFap but have come here out of finally facing my reality.

I have been using P as a MO aide for awhile now, for many years in fact. Until now, I have always coped fine with it, I have been able to maintain erections while with partners, I just suffered with DE which wasn't a bad thing and SO's have never had an issue with me O'ing myself while they visually or physically stimulated me.

This was until recently where things have taken a drastic turn, suddenly I have found I have ED as well as DE. This happened around 4 months ago which I noticed with a partner but I assumed I just wasn't attracted to her, anyway, fast forward and I'm in another relationship with a woman I love, everything is perfect except for the ED and DE. I'm able to get aroused but frequently see my erection fade after 3-4 minutes of VP which is definitely a newer issue. I discovered this movement via Reddit while searching for my issues and whether others have the same issue.

I have O'd with a SO about 3/4 times in my entire life and I never really thought it was a problem as my partners have always just enjoyed the length of time it took and then took part in the ending, but the ED is a issue which has made this harder, including one embarrassing situation where I had to explain to my current partner that she is extremely attractive to me & it wasn't her, which she has believed (I think) and is supporting me while also motivating me to only O with her.

Anyway, I searched the forums and didn't really find perfectly fitting threads which offered me comfort or advice. I just want my ED problem to be over like it used to be and if possible, my constant DE problem to be cured, I have no fear of PE in future as I have seen some people swing from one extreme to the other as my partner would be so unbelievably happy for me to O from just her and her input.

Any advice, similar testimonies would be great. Just want to see if I'm alone in this bizarre turn of events.

 

Thank you. I really appreciate your input, etc. I have abstained today and have noticed that I actually craved the release throughout the day, which shows there was a significant problem. I am looking forward to continuing this P abstinence as well as MO abstinence & I see my partner again in 9 days, hopefully this will maybe show improvements in that department but I will keep updating my profile.