[90-CHALLENGE] THE NINETY DAYS CHALLENGE !

Relapsed again. I feel stuck right now. Hopefully things begin to change. I think I'm going to create an exit strategy. Whenever I come close to relapsing in the future I do something instead right away. I also keep rationalizing my decisions ("at least im not watching p" or "it would be easier if I had a consistent routine") but I know that I'm still giving into something that I can control regardless of the circumstances. I can stop. I know I can.

 

Day 1. What can I do during the day? I got 12 hours to stay idle

 

Day 3. Life is good!

 

I can relate to the problem of rationalising the PMO habit. You’re absolutely right, you need to find an exit strategy, but you also have to ensure that you don’t need to use that exit strategy too often. Give it your all! We are with you.

 

Day 3

Sending strength brother ) I feel stressed as F right now. I slept well for 2 weeks, now I can't sleep well at all for 2 days, I went out with my X to catch up, with the hopes that something can come out of it in some time. However she is happy with another dude and it looks like there aren't any chances of us getting back together in the near future or maybe at all. Feeling overwhelming sadness due to the fact that I feel there isn't much I can do about it anymore. We already got back together for some time this year, but just as friends with benefits and we stopped 2 months ago because she wants a serious relationship and start dating that new guy. The funny thing is we both wanted a serious relationship, but she didn't think I wanted it, which is of course not true. Yesterday she tried to calm me down by saying that it wouldn't work between us long term. Sorry for the long post, maybe I just needed to put it into words to try to overcome the feeling. I know stuff like this in life makes you stronger long term, but it doesn't change the fact it makes you sad.

I am not thinking of PMO at all right now, and I hope I can get it together. Will try to stay focused and away from any escapism with PMO.

Have a nice day guys!

 

This is day 73 of not doing PM.
This is day 1 of not looking at any P-subs.

I joined this forum 404 days ago. Of those 404 days, I spend 363 days without doing PMO.

 

That sucks, man. It's gonna be tough for a while, but in the end, you will be able to let her go. Just try to remember, you don't need other people to make you happy. That's easier to understand mentally than it is to really feel, but it is true.

 

Day 42/90

 

Into day 7! One week, 7/90, I've enjoyed using my time differently. Had fairly intense dreams last night but held off M.

 

Believing that you can stop is a nice way to still get back up and be motivated, keep doing it bro, we can all do this.

 

For you all of you guys, who's struggling to feel like a loser, and a failure, don't forget we are going through that too, just be patient.

 

Day 20/90!

 

Day 28 done.

 

Day 10, lets go!

 

Day 1

 

Day 1/90

 

Day 58 complete

 

I am in 2nd day..
There is no urges.. But yesterday i watched porn videos .
Actually I tried to get away from porn videos ..
But mind sent back "there is no loss of little"
What i do for the next streax..
How i can manage this porn videos prblms
Give me some suggestions

 

Day 12. Forward ever

 

Day 13/90

I'm feeling a lot better today, although yesterday I dealt with my stress by drinking a little too much... not sure if that's better or worse than PMO, but in the long run I'd like to cut back on alcohol too.

Sorry you had such a rough day yesterday man. I don't know if I'm lucky or unlucky that all of my past relationships ended on terrible terms. My last ex was so crazy that I literally had to change the locks on my apartment. It sounds really hard to me to continue having a friendship with someone after a breakup, and I think you should feel proud of yourself that you're strong enough to process your own emotions and not take them out on her. But it doesn't sound easy. Just remember that you're strong and loveable. As long as you keep yourself on track, you'll find your person.