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The START 2021 STRONGER Challenge [CLOSED]

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by Deleted Account, Sep 3, 2020.

  1. Schia

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    I hope everyone has been able to get through Christmas. It’s a time to be busy, a time to switch off, but some things aren’t to be switched off from. Keep going, everyone!
     
  2. I added you to the Bronze Tier. Do take great pride in that you only have one Strike...This means you fought valiantly.
     
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  3. I know you're in a tough spot, writing this post-relapse, but I think that these types of responses are great and really add to the welcoming atmosphere. THANK YOU.
     
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  4. Ainz

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    Sorry to say but now I have 2 strikes. Lost the battle once again. It flowed without even touching, just a little bit edging and now I think I have PE which is of severe case. I again lost a clean streak(without wet dream) of 8 days.
     
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  5. Ainz

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    Maybe it has something to do with the date I went on yesterday. But in the end its my lack of control is to blame.
     
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  6. Don't get too bent out of shape, but find something....a book, podcast, youtube channel - something related to recovery and get your perspective shifted from relapse to "post-relapse".

    Get things under control.
     
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  7. Awesome, man. Fantastic to see this.
     
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  8. Sorry you had a tough ending, but we both know you got a lot out of this. I wish you all the best in '21! See you on the other side.
     
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  9. Talk about starting 2021 stronger. Your whole family is growing and stronger now. Your motivation is stronger. Your reasons are stronger. Your WHY is stronger. Take this and run with it!
     
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  10. @tonyk1982 Could I have said it any better? Thanks man, for being here!
     
  11. As we used to say on the end of our Tours overseas...

    4 days and a wake up, folks! Almost there (2021).

    Thanks to all who are staying active here and giving out good advice where good advice is due. The sense of community in here has been fabulous. Over 1200+ posts in 3 months! Wow. Way to keep up the energy.
     
  12. TheManInTheArena

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    Day 90.

    Haven't posted nearly as much as I did in the beginning, but I am still standing tall.

    The last month has been difficult as f***k. The withdrawals have been stronger than ever. I swear to you, it feels like the addiction is trying harder than ever. It literally feels like "it" knows it's dying and is panicking and doing everything it can to get me to relapse.

    The crazy thoughts that go through my head are nuts. "You should get out of your relationship","I hate my partner","your sexual sobriety is no good", "It's just going to be the same tomorrow, so you might as well use today".

    It's very difficult to be present. It's like I have ADD (I am actually going to go get tested for this). I can barely listen to others, I forget what was said a minute ago, and have a tough time communicating because my mind is racing...

    I just keep telling myself "It's withdrawals. That is the addict speaking". I really think that is the truth, because if I take a step back and look at my life, I have it so good. Absolutely nothing to complain about. It's all first world problems, at the most...the addict knows that if it can keep me down, get me to not believe in myself, that it is not worth it, and can separate me from others, then it can once again "breathe".

    I have a friend who has been doing this thing for a few years now, and he tells me I am right where I need to be, and the only way is "through" not "around". He always tells me I am on the right track. He says a "re-ordering" is taking place, so it's completely normal to feel disoriented, depressed, awkward, etc. Those are indicators that I am on the right track, and encourages me to sit in the feelings and just keep putting one foot in front of the other...someday the re-ordering will have taken place, and it will be the biggest gift I have ever received....I believe that.

    In a couple days this challenge will be over, but life in recovery will continue.

    "It takes days, months, years, to climb up and out of a well. It takes seconds to fall back to the bottom."...I never want to start this process over, ever again.

    I am grateful to have made it too day 90, and grateful for this challenge.

    Happy holidays to everybody. Hope your new year is liberating.

    Peace,
    Tim
     
  13. You seem very clear about what's happening. I think the best thing you have going for you is that reassurance from an experienced addict that's been where you are now.

    You said something really true about climbing out being slow and falling back down into the well happening quickly (instantaneously, really).
    I've gotten some good footing, and climbed up the wall some, but I always slip and fall straight to the bottom. It seems like the well is deeper now than before. Just need to make small....sure steps. No reason to be risky like looking at P subs, edging, etc.

    Stay the course, buddy. You're a great example
     
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  14. Awesome post. Keep going :)
     
  15. @BrohkenCompass final mark for me.
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    After the 2nd relapse, I had a sneaky and nagging feeling there'd be a 3rd one. I put it off for 11 days, and I suppose that is a win. Fewer and further between this year.

    All in all, much better this year. Remarkable progress. 2021 is the year to let this die. I'm not making a big, dramatic proclamations or anything of the sort. Just stating what is.

    Honestly, If I can get through the next year with just 4 "bumps in the road" and let 2022 and beyond be clear of pornography and masturbation, that'd be truly great. I'd rather that than have it return.
    Of course, to walk into the new year never to relapse again would be ideal. That is the aim.

    Good job all. Be good
     
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  16. patd

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    I came her by accident :D but I would like to stay. My short story:
    - PMO addict for a few years
    - did some successful streaks befor (like 100 days+)
    - I always came back and kinda cheated on myself by sneaky watching
    - this time it's clearest one
    - my goal was 100 days by the end of the year and it will happen
    Recently, I had many urges due to my situation and bad mood. To prevent my lose I changed my goal to 200 days - April 11, 2021.
    I also want to chase future version of myself that I see as successful guy. So, 2021 has to be big!
    Let's fight! :cool:
     
  17. Ainz

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    Kind of same goes for me too. Will try my best. But wont feel worst and won't give up if I relapse nor will I binge on PMO.
     
  18. Almost reached the new year, all.
    Wishing the best to us.
    Are you ready?
     
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  19. Ainz

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    Well in case of PMO, this year has been pretty good for me. Let's hope we all do better in the coming year. One more day to go and the start of the year will be for a new guy, who has lot of control, less PMO attraction and more energy for working hard to shape a better future.
     

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