What is your worst habit besides Porn and Masturbation

Thats definitely part of it, yeah.

 

PROCASTINATION and YOUTUBE. Share some advice if you have one.

 

Had to search it up on BackRub.

 

Smoking weed has been a hard habit for me. The longest I’ve gone without it is 6 months (probation), on my own, two weeks. I’ve been smoking since 14. Both my parents smoke weed and my dad drinks.

The only girlfriend I had was in my junior year of high school, partly due to an old habit of perfectionism, I would turn down girls or not seek them out because I wasn’t experienced and didn’t want to make mistakes. She and a few others helped me realize there is a stark difference in my personality from when I’m sober. I’ve learned to love it and it allows me to face insecurities, love myself and others, express my feelings, and remain respectful, responsible, and honest.

One of the biggest motivators is improving my memory and logical ability, which sorely suffers when I smoke weed. Just a little always leads to ounce after ounce, and porn is the same for me.

I’m reading Flow (1990) and Power of Habit (2012), from which I’ve learned what has always set me back were the critical points in my life, my pleasure-seeking behavior, corollary to my lack of growth, and my high expectations.

Sobriety has helped these issues by making it much easier to confront goals, and in turn reduce hedonism, and to be grateful for each moment of my life. Meditation has helped my expectations by replacing the focus on the process, while keeping the end in mind. In this way, forethought influences the behavior, but gratitude buffers the disappointment when the environment doesn’t match the desired outcome, and in turn keeps pride at bay.

I feel that coming here will help me stay focused, be honest about myself, be social, and keep the accountability I need in tough times.

 

Try picking a day within the next week where you will be productive for the entire day (no youtube). Afterwards, you can go back to procrastinating - no strings attached. However, at the end of the productive day, your final task will be to sit down for 60 seconds and ask yourself: "was this bad? can I do this again?". Maybe do this before you go to bed.

 

Procrastination.
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wich entangles sometimes with M creating the fearsome Procrasturbation.
In fact I noticed is the times I relapse, with procrasturbation far more than being triggered.

 

Binge eating /late night snacking and other unhealthy attitudes toward food
Moaning and negative thought patterns (plenty of examples in my post history)
Making excuses for allowing people to mistreat/use me. Then blaming other people rather than myself for letting it happen.
Not taking responsibility.
Procrastination - including spending hours reading self help websites books and videos but never quite getting round to doing the hard work required. Apart from making big plans that i wont follow through with.
Alternately being far too hard, and way too soft,on myself. A tendancy to overestimate my abilities and to give up at the first hurdle. Also underestimating my achievements.
Coffee.
Sugar and, especially, chocolate.
Selfishness. And being self absorbed.
The internet, especially pointless rows with strangers.
Not leaving the house for days on end. Depression. Anxiety.
Compulsive spending habits, with some collector/hoarding tendancies.
Perving at women on the street, on facebook, etc.

Other than that I'm perfect.

 

Thanks man . I'll give it a try.

 

You must have made a mistake there man - that's me that you just described.

Well except the coffee. Not that I don't drink litres of it, I just don't see it as a problem ... yet.

 

Smokes, weed and liquor. Goddamn netflix... As a recovering roman catholic, the vicious cycle of paralyzing existential guilt that leads to manically positive crests which usually falters and spirals into unstable depressive troughs which leads to levelling out through relapse which leads back to the ole guilt for existing in the first place, that loop is by far my worst habit. Addiction really... Some subconscious parts of me are addicted to the weightlessness of despair, and then the ecstasy of rebirth, and the drastic change of consciousness between those extremes... I'm addicted to unhealthy and unstable change, and trying my best to implement consistency and really pay attention to the subtle positives consistency, and faith in a plan and a vision, can accumulate.

 

yes, i also watch youtube for hours and seriously need to do something productive like making videos for my channel or writing articles on my site