18 yera old newbie

Welcome man glad you have seen the light and how bad heavily use of P can be if you have any questions feel free to message me or if you need someone to talk to. You got this!!!

 

yes bro I'm in the same situation as you hope we'll conquer soon!

 

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I have had 18 years or so of struggle with porn. Here is what I have learned:

I relapsed twice after 6 months Or so being porn free. I was beating myself up over it and depressed for a few days, I’m currently a year free from that relapse. Although in this year, I had 2 near relapses and straddled the line and looked and tempted myself more than I should have back in December and January.

I have a wife and kids and I had to tell her when I relapsed on one of times in 6 month gap. she has helped me , Along with a few friends opened up too. It lifted a huge weight off.

I have learned a lot in my struggle with porn. One, is what triggers me. A lot on the internet and tv triggered me(seeing beautiful women). I believe my last relapse was super bowl halftime show, I didn’t relapse that night, but like a week or two after it, but those images stayed with me and I kept wanting more, even after 6 months. The relapse before was seeing on ESPN website the athletes body magazine and got curious which athletes made it and had beautiful woman. Had zero intention of doing porn, but those were triggers.

I also researched And watched videos of the science behind it all and it releases dopamine In your brain and scary how the addiction can become when I thought I could control it.

the ways I feel like I have conquered it for good was that I had my wife put in an adult filter password that I don’t know what it is(it could be a friend if not married). It’s my backup plan when having a bad day and can’t see the adult sites. I also don’t watch shows that could trigger me and try to turn my head if I think a scene is coming. More importantly though, I have really grown in my faith with God. I have listened to so many sermons on temptations and that has helped me tremendously. Rick Warren and Greg Laurie are 2 of my favorites and have helped me a ton!! I learned about all the garbage I was putting in my mind. The analogy was how we have to watch what we eat, we can’t eat McDonald’s fried food every meal without bad consequences, the same thing applies with what you consistently put in your mind. We are trying to undo years and years of bad addictions and it takes time to undo that.
“Above Inspiration” YouTube videos are great too. Give them a listen, it’s usually 10-20 min long.

Hopefully this helps and try and learn as much as possible and avoid whatever gets you tempted and triggered. M make it a lifestyle change and don’t beat yourself up if you have a relapse. Just learn from it and keep trying to do better. Porn free radio podcast by Matt Dobschuetz
I also told myself , I would help as many people possible struggling with this as I could once when I got it under control.

Learn as much as you can and it is beatable. Hopefully some of these tools and analogies help.

 

When you get tempted again refocus your attention on something else. Don’t say “I’m not looking at porn” over and over again because that whole time you are thinking it. Go do something completely else, maybe go outside, take a shower, go for a walk etc

 

Learn when you are most often to do it, where, try and keep all internet away from you. Focus on getting your mind and thoughts well. Keep researching off YouTube about effects of porn and other success stories and what they did on YouTube.

 

Do workouts, it helped me to start the Day with some succes bc if you reach your workout-goals you are 1. awake and not totally tired the whole day so you don't spend so much time about thinking to sleep or relax on your bed and 2. whenever you reach a goal dopamine will be released which helps your mood and lowers the PMO temption.
If you feel lazy do some workout it helps. I've got an app which blocks the sides and apps you want not visit during work: BlockSide. The perma bann for websites doesn't work out totally but most is blocked.
I hope it'll help you