8 years Journey results in 3 year+1 year hard mode

bentber · Feb 24, 2021

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it's been my pleasure to know people trying hard here, as I remembered that I was one of you.

I know that people don't have much time to read. I will put a summary here and a link at the end for people whoever want to read.

As some of you knew that I was here and really active during years 2017 to 2018. I have to continue my hard mode through helping others in the these 2 years. Later on, Nofap becomes a habit and I didn't need much time on this website.

However, as a return of appreciation and for the sick of the achievement. I will write the following tips:
1. the purpose of Nofap is nothing to do with sex for me. Because I wanted to change my fate and I want hopes and miracles in my life!
Another reason to have a purpose not related to sex is that fap is from sex regards it's porn or real physical activities. If the roots were not removed, then the journey can't last long.
2. Never self-test! remember regardless you are a man or woman, using a phrase like "to see how long it lasts" or "how stronger you becomes to resist the urges" or " what if I watched porn and didn't relapse" or "I am different (everyone is different) and maybe my streak is long enough and no need to do it today" and so on.
Then you will come to a point that you will fail.
SO NEVER TEST YOURSELF REGARDLESS THE REASON.
3. All I needed to focus on is today not how long will my streak be. Remember focus on long journey may give you lots pressure. All you need to do is to nofap for the day. if you can do it just one day for today and one day for tomorrow then it becomes 1 week and 2 month then 3 years, eventually.
4. Write nofap notes and review them once a while. I am not a computer that store memories once and never lose them. I am not a god either that I predict the future and avoid mistakes. Therefore, my only way to work towards NOFAP is by studying it. Yes, that is right, you have to make notes and learn from people's mistake just like a course you took. The more efforts you put in and the higher score you will receive!

Someone will keep adding their experience and doing their strikes. I knew that I'm not the only one. Maybe now, yet the future!

Here is my detailed journey and I apologize for the hard reading since English is my 2nd language. Please let me know what needed to be explained and edited.
https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/life-for-nofap-from-2012-to-2021.301003/
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Congratulations on your constant struggling friend. You have set an example of how most of us want to keep living now and on: fighting this horrible vice. I have a question to ask you, I my case I have been out of porn since November 1rst 2020 and I have managed to not masturbate for long periods but I still can´t stay on hard mode more than two weeks. I fell intense urges of masturbating I don´t know if I am going to cure my PIED only with abtstaining from porn. My gol is to leave masturbation as well, but I need some tips to go on, I will appreciate your help! Send you a hug from the end of the world (Argentina).

Shin Iu · Feb 25, 2021

bentber said: ↑

Congratulations on your constant struggling friend. You have set an example of how most of us want to keep living now and on: fighting this horrible vice. I have a question to ask you, I my case I have been out of porn since November 1rst 2020 and I have managed to not masturbate for long periods but I still can´t stay on hard mode more than two weeks. I fell intense urges of masturbating I don´t know if I am going to cure my PIED only with abtstaining from porn. My gol is to leave masturbation as well, but I need some tips to go on, I will appreciate your help! Send you a hug from the end of the world (Argentina).
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To answer your question, I asked myself what is the world and what is it made from? I knew it's hard to answer, but one thing I know is that the world is half time under light and half time under darkness.
If light is a energy that is essential for the plants then darkness should be another type of energy. Maybe we focus too much and know a lot of light but not much about the dark.

Back to you question: we are similar to this world combined half light and half darkness. You have to admit that half of yourself is caving in the darkness since you were born. So in order to overcome your urges, you do need to fight against the half of yourself which is the darkness.
You could try the method mentioned about "spell".

Shin Iu said: ↑

I practice a line translated into: let the thought go immediately. if they came back, disconnect them quickly. In my mind when I said "disconnect", I use "kill" instead, which refers to "a quick kill" in my answer #2.
Then this line becomes: let the thought go immediately. if came back, kill them all.
the target of this training is to write this line at least 10,000 times then speak 20,000 times. I wrote it 20,000 times eventually this line kick in immediately each time in my mind when urge comes. Moreover, you can speak it in your mind more than once till the urges disappear.
you can use psychology to explain this. People trained on it called it "spell" (not a bad spell).

10,000 is the goal. Once you reach it, you mind can defend you instead lure you.

Also remember never test your limit (spell won't work if you choose to let urge start from your mind on purpose).
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Shin Iu · Feb 27, 2021

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2. Never self-test! remember regardless you are a man or woman, using a phrase like "to see how long it lasts" or "how stronger you becomes to resist the urges" or " what if I watched porn and didn't relapse" or "I am different (everyone is different) and maybe my streak is long enough and no need to do it today" and so on.
Then you will come to a point that you will fail.
SO NEVER TEST YOURSELF REGARDLESS THE REASON."

prove of rule #2：

Shin Iu · Jun 4, 2021

Aurthor of "your brain on Porn" Gary passed away.
https://www.garywilson.life
In name of his efforts and our efforts, I post link here. Hope we are not backup from the darkness in our life!

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8 years Journey results in 3 year+1 year hard mode

Do you expect an end of Nofap journey?

Yes, just when I recoved sexually.

No, it might never ends because the darkenss is there.

I can't answer and I feel hopeless.

I am on! regardless the result and circumstance.

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