Small Pen*s Club - (males, females and non-binary welcome)

I definitely was mocked, for having a small penis. Some women LOL'd or teased me about it. A few said it wasn't that small. This was oddly validating in a way as it confirmed what I already suspected. In a class one time, one woman clarified the whole "size doesn't matter" thing by saying "Size doesn't matter. As long as it's at least average" to which all the other women nodded in agreement. It clearly does matter to some women, but whether it matters or not, it helps to face the fact that it really is smaller than average.

Also, I might add, there are some very really downsides such as not being able to perform in certain positions, slipping out and having condoms slip off.

I posted more "dick pics" than full frontal nudes. But, one of the things that did make me feel better was that I don't recall any negative comments about the rest of my body and some comments were very positive

 

In my case, it's a really small part, haha!

It can be a good indicator of testosterone levels - which in turn has a profound effect on a man's body as well as temperament. Just as skin tone and teeth can be an indicator of health. From an evolutionary perspective, women would, at least occasionally, have sexual liaisons with multiple men or men other than their primary partners and the men with larger phalluses are much more likely to be successful in breeding. Whether it is outdated reptile brain thinking, or a reflection of modern culture, it does have some bearing on status and reproductive success.

But, I agree, it's often blown out of proportion. I appreciate the thought that the whole body can be eroticised as well as feeling some concern that men objectify their bodies too much, perhaps now more than ever before.

 

I appreciate every part of your response @she-dernatinus
As it happens, humans have very large penises relative to body size when compared to other mammals. So, large penises have been selected for. I don't think this is because women choose men with larger packages as much as the reproductive advantages of having a larger penis (and more testosterone).

In this world, we are all on a spectrum, but some of us have more testosterone, some less. Some are more aggressive, some not as much, etc.
I've read studies that men with more testosterone during puberty develop more muscle mass and bigger penises. They are more likely to be competitive and aggressive. They may be more hairy than their peers. They are also likely to go bald sooner and have heart problems later in life. Biology, evolution and genes don't really care much about that. Most of evolution is based on reproduction.
These more alpha-type males are not likely to have long term relationships. They're more inclined towards being sexual with as many women as possible. And . . . on the whole, they are more successful. The larger penis allows them to deposit deeper inside a woman's vagina and it is more effective at removing another man's sperm (the penis head is shaped like a mushroom for a reason . . . it acts like a plunger).

Women, for their part (especially historically, before so much cultural pressure to be chaste) often do have periods of promiscuity or, on occasion, have a sexual affair outside of their primary relationship. When are women most likely to have affairs? When they are ovulating. A woman who has one one night stand with a studly guy might genuinely believe that there's "no way" her child could have come from that affair when she only had sex with him once, but many times with her husband, yet such affairs are far more likely to result in conception due to the timing and and heightened arousal.

Now, of course, not all men are like this. Many of such men have short lives as they get into violent conflicts with other alpha type males. What do all the other guys do? The take a different strategy. The focus on being good partners and providers and jealously guard their women from other suitors. Studies have found that women find "nice guys" more attractive most of the time (these women are seeking a long term relationship, a partner) yet they find the "bad boys" more attractive when they are ovulating.

The end results are driven by genetics. A woman will have the most success if she can have a supportive long term partner and have children sired by other men. This yields greater genetic diversity. Ideally she would have perhaps one child with her long term partner and at least one child with another man. That is the ideal situation . . . if she can get away with it. If she gets caught, she might not have any success. A man who can compete will try to bed as many women as possible. A man who can not, will try to hold onto one woman. Most people are genetically wired to pursue both conflicting paths and ultimately pursue an intermediate strategy.

Sorry, I went way off track there. I do believe that a larger penis really is sexually superior, but at the end of the day, what matters most is if we chose the best strategy for passing on our genes.

On a totally different note, about objectification - I envy women's breasts. Women can, to some degree, flaunt or hide their breasts. They can make manipulate how their breasts appear to other. But, for the most part . . . it's hard to hide it if you have big ones or small ones. Maybe, if a woman has small breasts, she will encounter some men who won't take her seriously, she'll encounter others who might be infatuated with her small breasts and, hopefully, she will encounter a large majority that don't take too much notice and treat her with respect without objectifying her. The same could be said for a woman with large breasts.

I think if men had their penises "out on parade" (and we may be headed in that direction ), then maybe they would get over the size issue in their teens and early twenties instead of being tormented about it for decades, terrified that people will find out and worrying about what people would think if they knew that they had a small one.

As sexual beings, it can be really hard not to objectify people, especially ones that we are attracted to . . . but I too try not to. If I am attracted to someone, I need to see past their sexual attributes to see if we have real connection. Hopefully more of us will do the same. Lust can drive the first few months of a relationship, but there is probably nothing worse than having the lust fade and realising that you're not compatible with someone with whom you've been sexual for all this time.

 

Yes!! We're all different and, thank God, we don't all want the same thing. Supposedly most men prefer large breasts, I prefer small and most men prefer virgins but I prefer an experienced woman. My first girlfriend was asian and I've been attracted to asian women ever since. Later I dated a red-head. Before that I didn't find them terribly attractive, now I do.
I think that what I described are driving forces, but there are many other driving forces as well (i.e. personal experiences and upbringing). It's the classic "nature vs. nurture" conundrum and the answer is "all of the above". Many factors influence our preferences.

True. And many quote a statement that the average female vagina is only 3 inches deep. That is a misnomer, as this is in the unaroused state. When aroused, the average female vagina is about 6 inches deep. (so, there really is a limit as to how many inches can get in there). It takes a penis that is slightly larger than average (i.e. 6 inches) to make contact with the cervix during intercourse. Some women find this uncomfortable, but most find it arousing and some can even orgasm from this sensation. This would further drive a selection for longer penises.

On the flip side, for the majority of us who are average or below . . . we will never hit that spot (the "A" spot) no matter what position we try. In that case, girth (and foreplay!) is more important as there are few nerve endings between the opening and the cervix.

 

I wanted to say more on this. Being on the short side of average, that puts my penis on the wrong side of the evolutionary trend. I believe that it's important to face the facts, as uncomfortable as they may be to some. Some women may reject me outright as a sexual partner (I have had a few women tell me that my penis is too small, as well as a few women who lost interest soon after seeing what I had on offer). If my partner has sex with another man, it is more likely that she would conceive from the infidelity than if my penis was average sized or larger. Having a short penis is a sexually inferior trait. I have yet to sire children and having a small penis is probably at least part of why my relationships have not lasted and some of my partners ended up having sex with other men.

It helps to acknowledge that, to "call a spade a spade". I have many superior traits as well. For example, I'm not as strong in athletics, but I am stronger than most in academics. I have a great life and much to be grateful for. But I have a small penis as well. I can't really talk about that in the break room at work, but I want to talk about it so that I might come to peace with it and maybe help other addicts with little dicks as well and get insightful feedback from amazing women like you!

My hope in writing this thread is that a club of guys with small dicks might be able to help each other process the challenges of having a small penis as well as pointing out the benefits, for example: getting erections in public isn't as embarrassing, or as uncomfortable!

 

Well said, and I'm grateful that you captured that post (which I think was deleted). Physical desensitisation is one thing, but it really is more mental that it might appear. Only through long periods of really clean abstinence (no masturbation, no porn, no edging and trying to avoid fantasy) have I reached that point where I can see a really sexy woman and think "huh, now there is a beautiful woman" and leave it at that (i.e. I don't get "hooked" by the sexual stimuli).

Interesting how this thread has taken on a life of it's own and progressed in such an insightful manner since my original post of creating an accountability and support thread for the little guys.