How do I (F19) and my boyfriend (M19) get through NoFap?

Even putting the masturbation addiction aside restraining from sex could be good for your whole relationship, it gives you two more of a chance to connect on a more emotional level and can help you to see each other with more clarity.

 

Why does he want you to stop - and why stop together?

Did I read correctly that intercourse is not on the table currently?

 

1- Not an option. If you keep doing what you are doing, you are going to get the same shitty result you are getting rigth now. Never settle for shit. Settle for great.
2- I don't like this idea. Physicall interaction is good for a relationship. Make two people bond. Avoiding this can make you fell apart or maybe have the need to look for it outside the relationship.
3- I would try this option in your scenario. Sex make people bond even more. Why waste time fapping when you can share and enjoy the real deal with each other? If you try and have sex several times and you feel that is turnning into something bad then you can stop and try another way.

 

Thank you for the context.

From what you've said I feel like what I'm hearing is that both you and have him sexual desires, including for each other. However, both of you want to abstain completely from masturbation/dryhumping for a variety of reasons that include religious and personal.

If I have that right, here are my thoughts

1. As long as both of you want to do it for yourselves, and support each other, it should be doable
2. I would not go to have sex if you don't want to just to relieve sexual tension/pressure
3. You need to be able to set boundaries on what's acceptable and what's not. Make it clear. I get why he may not trust himself to stick to them - however you also have intimacy needs as well and he should respect that.
4. Simply forgoing sexual intimacy in specific ways won't improve your relationship automatically. There may be other options such as reading books together about emotional intimacy, finding hobbies to do together, etc that fufill those goals while not creating new relationship constraints.

Good luck1

 

I was under the impression that those who abstain for religious reasons abstain from all things sex. This whole avoiding sexual intercourse for religious reasons whilst still doing a whole bunch of other sexual acts seems kind of erroneous to me. A bit like a porn addict saying it's ok I don't fap to porn ... just cam girls, instagram, tinder, twerk videos, erotica, escort ads etc ... but not porn. Kind of defeats the object?

 

It's a sterotype but probably accurate that people who refrain due to religion may practice the "everything but" method when it comes to sex. People still have urges and hormones and wants and such. Just because someone wants to be celibate for religious reasons doesn't remove the "lizard brain" wants. So, sometimes compromises are made.