aching pain within semen retention

Hey man, when you have sexual thoughts blood will rush to that part of your body and prepare for ejaculation. You have to stop following your fantasies. 5 days is not a long time if we are considering any sort of physical ailment. It sounds a lot more like you have to get your thoughts under control than anything else.

That said, I know very little about you, you have not said that much, and if you DO believe that this is not due to fantasizing, you may want to look into prostatic congestion - here is a place to start. https://www.menshealthhandbook.org/phyiscal-impacts-of-porn

 

The difference between so called usual urges and sensual tantric feeling of desire is 'space'. Behind every urges lies more vast and self fulfilling joy of life and sense of sensuality. The thing is that you need to relearn to breathe to urge, giving space to it, without taking action to change actual arousal state, without even thinking about change, letting them be, just feeling them to the fullest. If done properly, you will find that every desire is automatically self fulfilling. It's just another practice of meditation. In fact, according to my best experience and knowledge, rebooting without giving space to transmute urges into natural arousal and sparks of joy will lead to more resistance in body, thus stopping the full possibility to experience life. Resistance is 'one for all' action. Hard to describe, you must be at tantric point of experience to feel fully what I described. Urges during rebooting is key to greater fulfillment, repressing them is useful only at the beginning, next step is transforming them by simply not acting on them while fully feeling and breathing to them. With this, your feeling will change from the small area of penis and genitals to whole body, you will be (at moment of arousal) more sensual and energetic in body, more grounded and joyful.
This is main difference between usual unconscious sexuality and conscious sexuality - the space, holding the space inside, not resisting, not creating more resistance and suppression.

 

It seems that I went into this conversation knowing very little of what was being talked about.
What you describe sounds truly amazing - I have to try and experiment with it.

 

Try it, new land awaits to discover ! Urges are tensions, and every tension is sign of energy awaiting, announcement of flow, because energy only flows between polarities in us. Itself urges are sign of life, given space they transform into pure energy of life and joy. With this practice you will be master of your sexual energy and focus, owning your life and purpose in every aspect of life, not only in sex.

 

FMO stands for fantasy, masturbation, and orgasms.

 

You are welcome to chat in private with me

 

Do you have an erection when you're doing this?

 

It depends on level of arousal. Usually I don't have erection or have it at 10 -15 %. In intimate relationship it's possible to have intercourse (and erection) while still giving space to energy of arousal and experiencing both.

 

Thanks. It's not easy!

 

Yes, it takes a lot of practice, awareness and small steps.

 

Although im having a hard time now with porn, in the past when doing nodal I noticed too much testicle pain and congestion. I've decided to go on No-P but plan to masturbate like once every 1-2 weeks, to make sure to discharge excess semen and avoid congestion and pain. I got a friend that explained me like just go in a mechanical way just for that purpose, and would be good.