Found out my husband sent my pictures to his co worker. Is this common

Shit, so he may have shared your nudes publicly on reddit? How tf are you getting back with someone like that? It's not normal for a guy in an adult relationship to do that. Guys in the high school I went to used to share their girlfriends' nudes, and I thought it was pretty disgusting then, so it's definitely not normal for a married man to do that.

Guy may have a secret fetish he has not shared with you. But I'll be damned if it's ever ok to share intimate photos with someone outside the relationship.

 

That's like saying all the girls on the beach are essentially betraying their partners by allowing other people to see their bodies. Complete rubbish and deflection, so don't fall for that. Nudes are intimate photos. I'm into bodybuilding as well, so I know what you are saying. It's not the same thing to be on stage, and be in your bedroom taking an intimate photo.

I wouldn't worry about what else he shared unless it was public and had your face in it. Don't go down that thought loop, because the facts don't change: People saw things they that were not meant for their eyes.

 

One of the so’s husband secretly recorded her, she found hidden cameras. It’s an escalation of their addiction. I’m so, so dirty this has happened to you. I think you need to decide if you can stay with someone who had publicly shared nude pics of you and if you do decide to do that you really need to start implementing strong boundaries of what you can and cannot accept.

 

Sorry** this happened not dirty!

 

Umm yeah that is definitely not normal, in any scenario. I think sharing your girlfriends nudes is pretty f'ed up like someone else said let alone your wife's. I'd be fuming. Is he worth the fresh start? Like that seems like a hard line that shouldn't be crossed.

 

Secret cameras, holy shit

 

You can edit it lol, but that's what porn does to a mf.

 

I’m not a porn addict. I’m just terrible with tech.

 

Sorry I was referring to your camera story

 

Oh! Lol. Yeah that’s true. Addiction escalate to things one never thought they would do

 

But that far tho? Holy fuck I thought I heard it all

 

You think that’s bad? You don’t think people escalate to rape, abusing children, abusing animals? To sex with the same sex even though they are heterosexual. Addiction will take you to the depths of depravity, any addiction can do this. Attend an saa meeting and you will find all of the above escalations.

 

Kinda scary. I wouldn't want to hear about that stuff. I would be genuinely fearful

 

Smh. Sounds like he’s into cuckold fantasy.

 

You should not do that. A cellphone is part of his intimacy and you are not allowed to do that.

That's something you just don't do when you respect a person.

I work with software... he definitevely surf thru that content. Maybe he share you pictures online or not... but if he send it to his friend you he is capable of doing so.

This has nothing to do with porn.

The way you are telling this is that he keeps disrespecting you over and over again.

You have to make a choice, acept him the way he is and keep dealing with all his crap and disrespect to you or stand up for what you want and dump his ass and go and look for a man that have his shit together, he definitevely is not that guy.

 

Having a wife sharing kink is OK. thinking your wife is hot is good. Bragging about how hot your wife is, is debatable depending on context. Sharing a nude photo of your wife without her permission is not OK.

 

It is not common and it is not okay. It is a gross violation of your privacy and your trust. It is also emotional and sexual abuse. You have done nothing wrong by looking at his phone. This would be a deal breaker for me. What is your next step?