About to be married but...ED due to porn

I have used them before and they worked for me. I do think it helped with self confidence. I used it when I was on nofap a few years ago and when I ran out I didn't need them. I think I was on strict hardmode for like 6 months before that though.

 

I was taking sildinifil (viagra) and I think I was splitting 100mg pills in half and I would take it just before sex. I was super anxious about not being able to get it up and it allowed me to just relax and forgot about it. After I got comfortable with her and ran out I discovered I didn't need it anymore. Maybe I didn't need it to begin with I'm not sure

 

@Wyoming501 If you would indulge me in a metaphor, this is a "study" for a final. I don't mean to break a marriage down to a single test, but I am talking in terms of the preparation. You need to spend a lot of time reworking your energies ("studying"). It takes a great amount of effort and diligence to reverse any damages. One need not take pills to help ones self (I know it helps for people as expressed above but it is a band-aide on a broken leg type thing). You have to do a "hard" reset. Stay away from everything "sexualized" for this time period. No matter how big the urges get you have to "stand" there and "take the blows". If the urge comes to PMO, instead of going to P take a deep long look at your wife (in person, a photo). You have to "manually reset" the connection between your sexual desires and your soon-to-be wife. Is it going to be hard? Absolutely! Is it impossible? No, it isn't. Is it absolutely possible. Personally, I did my "reset" this way.

A marriage is not something tiny. It is a huge commitment. You might be aware of this, as most are, but just being aware is not enough. The understanding has to be fuel for your everyday actions, it has to be a burning flame.

 

Here, do you mean that you are still going to watch P but not M to it? Or do you mean that you will just O with your wife? Just want to be clear.

 

Okay, awesome! Let your love flow, man. Don't let anxiety and worry and fear take it away from you. I have struggled with this for too long! Keep bringing yourself (energies and your mind) back to your wife, you know why you are getting married to her.

I did an "exercise" before. For at least a few days, throughout the day (literally), consciously think about your wife, keep "course correcting". Whenever thoughts of P or whatever come to you just gently guide yourself back to your wife. This worked wonders for me. Now, I find that my brain does that automatically.

I wish the best for you and your soon-to-be wife! Be diligent and be joyful with her!

 

What is the longest amount of time you have been clean? Does your fiancé know about your addiction? Marriage will make things harder rather than easier in many cases.

 

That’s great that she knows! Good for you being honest, so few are. Maybe talk with her about if you should use pikas or not? I absolutely would not and do not want my husband to use pills. She may feel the same

 

Pills**

 

So why haven’t you quit since being with your fiancé? You can still get lonely in a relationship. In fact, usually at sone point you will if your marriage lasts. 34 years with my husband, there will be up and downs

 

In my opinion, I see no problem in taking that, if it's going to make you feel less anxious.
For exact doses and when to take it, it's better to consult a urologist, he will give you reliable answers

 

You ask for opinions on an open forum. There is a big risk you get replies you don't agree with.

As a woman, I would be devastated if a man took my virginity using sildenafil.

Abstinence from porn will make you wonderful in bed by itself. Why fake it for the girl you love?