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Small Pen*s Club - (males, females and non-binary welcome)

Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by +TenPercent, Feb 3, 2021.

  1. I've had the same experience. It takes a long and high quality streak before I find myself seeing women as whole people (some who, perhaps, happed to also be very beautiful) without my addict mind responding to their sexual attributes, especially when said attributes are such that they would normally set off a strong response in my brain. It's a beautiful thing when that happens. I feel more free and more connected to the world around me. :)
    I'm not so sure. I think I can relate to a strong desire to have another person inside of me, to bond at the deepest level physically possible. I imagine that some gay men might feel this as well, whether it is driven by lustful desires, or oxytocin laden feelings of love and intimacy.
     
  2. AtomicTango

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    Well in which case surely you mean you have a strong desire to be inside a woman, not the other way around?

    As for gay men, I dont know honestly, never thought of it that way.
     
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  3. she-dernatinus

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    I think men experience the opposite of this sensation. The need to be inside a woman.

    Nevertheless, abstaining from PMO purifies our mind of the polluting content of the porn industry.
     
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  4. AtomicTango

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    Speaking for myself, I definitely do. When I am attracted to a woman sexually I feel like I want to be physically close to her in that way, as opposed to just thinking of her as a source of pleasure. Its beautiful in a sense, re-remembering just how beautiful women are when you arent in a porn induced fog.
     
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  5. RiverBlue

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    It's interesting though that this might have been true for our forebears. As the OP points out in another post, the human penis is larger relative to other mammals. Biologists have hypothesized that our forebears were pretty promiscuous (to put it as politely as possible). Multiple male partners at once or in sequence was not unusual. So the male who could insert his seed the deepest had an advantage over the other males in the reproduction contest. Since this is no longer the case in modern society, the large human penis is an artifact of evolution. It no longer imparts any advantages.

    Another genetic hypothesis goes to the shape of the human penis. The flange under the head is thought to have allowed the second or subsequent male who copulated with a woman to basically scoop out the semen of the preceding male, allowing him to replace the earlier male's sperm with his own. I never gave this a lot of thought until one time I had sex with my gf twice in a row, and low and behold I realized after that I'd pretty well pulled all the semen from my first ejaculation out of her. It was a mess on both of us. LOL
     
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  6. she-dernatinus

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    I don't think penis size impacts reproduction rate. It's pure randomness and luck, the male who first had intercourse with an ovulating female will father a child. Regardless of his size, or the size of the following male partners.
     
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  7. Ltafma_92

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    I can relate with this club being a gay man it definitely is challenging in the LGBT community
     
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  8. Krillin1993

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    I have the exact same Penis size! Mine is also 12 cm which is 4,7 inch. But I hope we are talking about the penis size when it is fully errected right? To be honest I really doubt that woman don't feel anything when you use the whole 12 cm during sexual intercourse. There are woman who are even say that 16 cm is okayish. I guess sky is the limit. But if thats the case, I wonder how long the vaginal canal can go? I have heard that some enjoying it with penatrating with huge monster dildos. But I guess those woman had alot of masturbation and sex sessions with huge dicks and dildos in their lifes. The only thing I wish to have it back is my foreskin. I miss my foreskin alot. This religion I was born into ( I don't want to say any names) has forced me to cut out my foreskin, through my parents acting against my will. Since then I hated this religion from the bottom of my heart. And I can only puke to those people who find it funny to cut an innocent childs nature givin foreskin. Is god so dumb, that he has created a foreskin to all creatures around the world? I don't even believe in god, because such a god has no power to protect the people from such a desaster! Such a religion makes people dumb. What should we even respect? We should respect suffering for this religion? We should respect torture, we should respect violence? All in the name of religion and all in the name of god. I don't respect any kind of religion who supports any kind of suffering. Even to cut a man's foreskin out is equal to rape! It is done without a childs will! Children can't talk and protect themselves thats why I believe those religions who are supporting this against childrens will are true monsters! It is like I am saying you to cut your ears! Your ears will bleed days or even weeks but you still can hear as before. This is insane to think about! Lets focus on this please! I can't understand why american parents are even participating in such an evil act!? Can you do understand that?
     
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  9. she-dernatinus

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    Certainly, me too I believe it's impossible not to feel anything. Espescially if the woman is craving it, and deeply aroused.
     
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  10. I wouldn't say 12cm is small, considering it is not that below the average size.
     
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  11. I do have some self steem issues, and also with my size. Like feeling unworthy of a good real woman. Haven't been told tho, It seems its all on my mind, but its confidence issues with my size because of porn. I guess I'm part of the club
     
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  12. Thank you for this and your spoiler'd addition! It's great to hear it from someone else. This is all described quite effectively in the book Sperm Wars.
    Many of us are led to believe that males tend to be promiscuous and women tend to be chaste and more monogamous. In truth, we have mixed traits which can vary from time to time. History is replete with women who had multiple male partners and there are reasonable statistics that 40% of married women have at least one sexual affair and that 10% of children born are the product of cuckolding (the father listed on the birth certificate is not the biological father)

    If I had a big penis, it might be worth the risk to sleep with as many women as possible, even if they had other partners. I might have a short life, but biologically I would be successful, having sired many children.

    Since I have a small penis, I would be a fool to sleep around, risking disease and ass kickings and, most importantly, my chances for a primary relationship . . . while having a very low chance of reproductive success. Similarly, I need to guard my mate jealously, for if she were to have sex with another man, try as I might my little penis would be largely ineffective at scooping out his deposited semen and my semen would not be as close to the cervix. Conversely, even if I were to make love to my partner on a regular basis, depositing older, crooked sperm which might better block an interlopers fresh, more motile sperm . . . his larger penis would scoop out most of my sperm while depositing his own beyond my reach. :rolleyes:

    There probably is a benefit of being the first one to have intercourse, but I think @RiverBlue and my response above do a fair job of describing why, if there is more than one lover, the one with the larger penis is more likely to deliver the sperm that will result in conception. The first sperm to reach the egg is the winner, of course, but a lot happens between intercourse and conception . . . conception itself is a relatively rare occurrence.

    I can see that. In some ways I would like to imagine the LGBT community to embrace an "all bodies are beautiful" outlook, or something more gender neutral, yet I know that the gay community in particular can be very focused on body image and size . . . and I've heard that gay men tend to have larger penises than straight men . . . so I imagine that it's even harder. :oops:

    @Krillin1993 thank you for your responses. Yes, I am talking about erect length, not flaccid. But, as it happens, mine used to be 12 cm, now it is about 10 1/2 cm. Still, I feel your excitement. It's nice to hear that and know that there is someone else out there with the same sized penis.
    And, i want to acknowledge your pain over having been circumcised. I have talked with other men who've had similar complaints. I am also circumcised but I have never known anything else and prefer it that way. I have heard that having a foreskin protects the glans (head of the penis) and makes it more sensitive. I often feel like mine is already so sensitive, I worry that if I had a foreskin, I would probably have even more accidents than I already have! :eek:

    @windsurferhawk15 Welcome to the club! :)
     
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  13. RiverBlue

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    Spoken like a true cuck.;) I am curious though. It seems like cuckold fantasies are pretty common with guys with smaller dicks. Is this true? As a guy with a normal/larger penis, I don't have this thought about my wife. I'd never want to see her with anyone else. But the couple of times I've had sex with a married woman, I have to admit a bit of an extra charge from the thought that she had another guy she'd go home to.
     
  14. There is definitely a correlation. I wonder sometimes if the thought of getting cucked is so arousing for me because I would need to get as erect as possible to have a better chance of competing with just about any other guy.

    Also, it seems natural to me that my first reaction to suspicion (or validation) that my partner is having sex with other men would be arousal. Of course I would be aroused! I would want to have sex with her as soon as possible so that I might at least have some chance of ensuring paternity if a child is conceived.

    Why do other men react with anger and violence instead of arousal? Maybe it's simply their temperament. Or maybe, having larger dicks, they're mostly just pissed off about the betrayal rather than driven to get their seed in place (i.e. they feel more secure in that regard).

    Interesting. I had sex with one girl that had a boyfriend and I felt guilty. :( Actually, thinking about it, there were a couple of such encounters, and maybe sometimes I felt more neutral, but I never got a charge out of it. Makes sense that you would feel that . . . your body is giving you feedback, encouraging you to do something that my pass on your genes.

    I have had married women show interest in me. One married woman at work would practically drool every time she saw me and other people pointed it out to. My response though it's a thrill at the possibility of punking her husband . . . rather I would feel fear of the possibility of him wanting to retaliate and, mostly, arousal at the thought that I would be sharing her with another man / the thought of being with a woman who would cuckold her husband / and wanting someone like her to be my partner. :rolleyes:

    Now that I re-read your words. Was there a charge at the thought of this guy not knowing, of feeling like you had bested him somehow? Or, was it more a charge at the thought that you were with this lascivious woman who had multiple men, the thought that she would be with him and you? Were you with the same woman multiple times and knew that she was having sex with him also?
     
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  15. RiverBlue

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    Yeah, it was definitely from knowing I'd taken these other guy's women. The charge was greater in the case where I knew her husband pretty well. (I'm not really proud of that, but it's true. I did also kinda feel bad for the guy.)

    I think there is something to that -- an attraction to a lusty woman. I doubt that I was the only guy a couple of these women cheated with.

    Yes, in the case of the woman who's husband I also knew.
     
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  16. Ltafma_92

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    Wow that doesn't even surprise me that gay men are larger on average now reading this I definitely have improved on my body image but it is certainly challenging especially with sph existing
     
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  17. Agreed. I would like to imagine that, especially for women, but also for men, it is more of a full-body experience and very much mental as well. So many lovely feelings when we are intimate with another human being! :)

    And, it would be silly to imagine that a woman would not feel a man's penis inside of her because it is too small or that a man would feel nothing if he were inside of a woman with a large vagina. Of course they would both feel something!

    Still, though I am not a woman, it is hard for me to imagine that women wouldn't be more excited to see their partner with a larger penis and that they wouldn't feel more pleasure from having a bigger penis inside of them as long as its not so big as to be painful.
     
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  18. she-dernatinus

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    Indeed it would be a wonderfull experience. Even thought I never had any form of sexual contact with another person, man or woman. It's something that my instincts push me toward, like when I am thirsty and see a cup of water. I am going to share an anecdote here:

    Two years after I started puberty, I learned what sex was and how humans were supposed to procreate. At first it shocked me, and it made me feel repulsed. I couldn't understand how women enjoyed such a thing. One day, I let my imagination wander at night, I started to picture the actual act of sexual relation. And my body reacted pleasantly to it, seeking more. finally , when I was trying to imagine the feeling of having a penis inside my vagina, I came instantly. I never touched my body in any stage, but I still could climax with an idea that made me repulsed at first.

    It was very strange, back then it was something that made me feel repulsed. But my body reacted in the opposite way of my mind's thoughts. I think it's something instinctive now that I am much older. Don't you think so ?

    Sometimes your body is way ahead of your mind's knowledge.

    Because I learned that even lesbians feel this need to be filled. It's not something they can help, nor can I. I even heard about gay men wanting to be inside a woman from time to time. It's not even tied to sexual orientation, it's rooted deeply in our biology.

    I think it applies mainly to the girth part, as long as it's not out of normal range ofc. I believe the selection happened around the girth, not mainly about the lenght. This is why the human penis is girthier than any other mammal's.
     
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  19. @she-dernatinus
    Everything you wrote sounds natural and normal to me :)
    (except that I do think there is selection pressure for length, without being too long, as a longer penis can deliver semen further inside as well as "scooping out" the semen of other men . . . and with monogamy and small families being a more recent phenomena).
    Our bodies are meant to respond that way. Like many young men, I had erotic wet dreams on occasion before I had discovered masturbation and without any real knowledge of sex or intimacy. Porn and PMO totally threw those natural desires out of whack!

    The longer I abstain, the more I feel those natural desires return. It's really a beautiful thing!
     
  20. she-dernatinus

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    I am skeptical about this length selection, because it's so varied among men. But the girth is rarely below average, my theory is that women prefered it when it came to stimulation. Another reason, is that fertilisation happens almost instantly, so it would be useless for other men to try as well. The first one who mates with a fertile woman, fathers a child.

    I agree with you that our bodies are meant to respond this way, you have my example and ofc your own personal experience. It's just that many young men feel curious to see thing from our womanly perspective. And, I don't mind to share it.
     
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