Instagram is the new porn

Thank God I am a boomer who never used Instagram in my life.

 

Instagram is soft porn I don't look at it.

 

100%. It’s a trap.

 

Daaaaayum. This is so well written!!!! Great post, @TheMathFolder

 

Beautiful post. It's been an everyday struggle for me for years. I'm not a regular p*rn consumer. I like to search for the over the edge stuff on social media, softcore but just something that should not be accepted on there. Usually it gets deleted pretty quickly. It arouses me. Algorithm knows, however: a few weeks ago I deleted every post I liked and saved on both platforms. Both pages changed up pretty quick. I didn't see any unknown ass or titties bouncing on my screen anymore... Now, this is were the real problem begins. I can keep that up, a few days, maybe a week, before the normal people I follow -the girls I know- are triggers for me. I have been masturbating to their pics since the beginning, it is where it all once started. Anyways, from then on, it all starts to go downwards very fast again. So it's not just the unknowns that trigger me, it's also the ones I know...

I'm constantly in this loop. I'm also using the apps for entertainment purposes, seeing content about my hobbies: such as the gym. But you guess it, girl gym content can get pretty triggering quickly. I also use it to connect with my girlfriend, to send funny cat videos back and forth etc.

Does anyone have a solution on how to deal with this. Should I delete the apps temporarily and tell my girlfriend I did (she'll understand probably), this then also results into a dopamine detox or some other rehab symtoms. Or, should I once again just try to clear all algorithms and stay strong when someone I know and consider hot posts something triggering. Or, should I unfollow some girls/friend (which is weird?) because of that and clean up the algo. I don't know? Option one seems best actually now that I wrote that out.

 

I loved the nature-related posts but finally had to discontinue use of Instagram - at least for now - because of triggering sexualized photos. I also have a problem with camming and it's way too easy to keep in touch with models by following them on IG.

 

So true !!

 

I used to have a serious problem with sexualized content on Instagram. Soooo many curvy models with insane T&A, along with the hundreds of accounts that would show up "recommended" in my feed promoting their OnlyFans pages. It was usually just a hop, skip and a jump from there to hardcore porn, edging, wasting away an entire day, etc.

So I started on an absolutely relentless mission to block every single sexualized Instagram account I was shown. If you look at my 'blocked accounts' right now, it's probably 300+ strong. Eventually, the algorithm learned and said, "clearly this guy doesn't want to see this crap anymore," and stopped suggesting it. Now my feed is pretty clean, relatively speaking.

 

I would be highly skeptical of anything you're told by a transwoman about sex. They are almost certain to have biases that push them to reject any notion that a sexual behavior can be destructive or unhealthy.

Plus, if he has a neuroscience degree, he should understand how heavily sexual activity spikes dopamine, and what chronically-elevated dopamine levels do to the brain over time.

(don't @ me about misgendering ... I'm using "he" in reference to his biological sex, not his gender identity)

 

Did you or do you have the same problem with not just only sexualized content but also with girls you know and find hot? That;s where my problem is in combination with the one you described. I can't just block them? I've deleted the apps of my phone now 2 days ago, but I still login every evening to check my messages. But still.. That moment it's hard again.

 

You're right, you can't just block them (I mean you could, but that's not very kind). The good thing about women you actually know is that they're three-dimensional. Even if they're super-hot, they're also human beings with goals, struggles, imperfections, etc. It's much harder to reduce someone to a simple sexual object when you know them personally.

Also--and this might be a controversial opinion, so I'm open to pushback--I would suggest that if you're having sexual fantasies about someone you actually know, that's at least better than having fantasies about some random model on your screen who will never know you exist. M. Scott Peck defined mental health as "a commitment to reality at all costs." If you're fantasizing about women you know, that's still an issue to resolve, and it's probably not helping you live your best life--but at least that's a step closer to reality than porn or hot social media influencers. Remember, the goal is progress, not perfection.

 

Thank you. You are absolutely right. I mean, when in 'normal' state I can just have indeed very.. normal... conversations with them. I do know then, about them being human beings and all the things you describe. The bad thing is, that when in 'horny' state all this clarity does not perse disappear, but it seems to lose it from the devilish state. About your last paragraph, I like it. The thing is... it's not only about women I know, it has always been a combination of both unknown and 'friends'.

Anyway, past week I've delete instagram off my phone. I feel like it goes better, gradually. My fear of missing out posts of anyone, just seems to be disappearing even more quickly. Every now and then I download the app again. Just to, you know... it's addictive. Social media.

 

Brother, I can't tell you how many times I've deleted IG from my phone, only to reinstall it hours later. But sometimes that's my entire goal--just keep it off my phone long enough to get some work done without the distraction.

Remember, these apps are literally designed to be addicting, with input from psychological experts and programmers who write algorithms to keep you as engaged as possible. Kicking the habit of "going to social media on autopilot" will be a real struggle, and we should expect it to be.

 

Yes exactly. I do it on and off, but it doesn’t make me feel unmotivated. I understand that I’ve had that app for (how long???) like 10 years on my phone. Ye, as long as there are some phases I do not have the app installed I am okay. And I am especially okay when I do not mindlessly click on the app. As long as I am conscious of my behaviour, makes it a lot more bearable I feel like. Feel like that tackles your “autopilot” sentence.

 

Guys, have you ever struggled with porn of AI models on Instagram? This is so difficult to overcome. I know there are a lot of beautiful women on the platform but in last days, I had really difficult times with this issue. This girls are not even real but I just can't stop when the strong urge hits.

 

I’ve seen those posts yes. I wasn’t attracted to them. But they can generate anything you’d possibly want to see so I understand they might be a problem. There’s just one good solution and that is to reset your algo en delete the app.